Hi BeccaBoo,
I thought a psychological perspective could possibly STRENGTHen your understanding, and therefore your position. These are simply some ideas to consider in coming to your own decisions and solutions. They are about learning from our child.
What distinguishes a (conscious) human parent from an animal parent? After all, the animal cuddles, feeds, nurtures, and generally trains its child for the world - and this is what humans do. To understand the answer to why a human parent is different, one needs to understand the psychological reason for a human having a child.
A child is projected into the world because deep within themselves is something unconscious in the parents. The child embodies that unconsciousness of the parents; essentially the child carries forth (is an externalisation of) the journey of that which is unconscious and unrealised in the parents.
So what is the proper psychological role a human parent can play: to help themselves AND to help the child, so that not only does the parent become more conscious, but the child's burden is lightened - particularly in that the child will then not have to literally go through many of the traumas and illnesses of managing a burden the parent has passed on to them.
A child is not equipped to consciously manage the burden passed on by the parent; they can only live it literally. For example, say, a brave army colonel has passed on to his boy all the fears/terrors the father does not confront within himself; the son will then have to cope with carrying a burden of terror - perhaps in his nightmares, later in the playground, and quite possibly in forming relationships. There are innumerable possible scenarios here.
The first psychological rule is: the human parent is learning from the child - every day; the child is a closer reflection of what the parent needs to realise in themselves once a child has been born; that is why the intensity of relationship between partners often cools a lot after a child is born; the key projections now manifest more in the child, than in the partner.
I have only covered the above to present a specific possible psychological perspective to you, BeccaBoo. And please do not take what I say literally. Psychology is about the imagination - and sometimes we draw stark pictures, but only to highlight ideas.
In your life you say your child is autistic. I am sure and know there is a lot more to her than that, and she is a wonderful human being. Being strictly practical and still true to her we must as our most important tribute to her make ourselves more conscious of what her autism means psychologically, and imaginatively.
Today, it seems only relevant to cover autism in the context of your 'emotionalism'.
You have yourself said you are an emotional person: in post #12: "I am one of those hated criers. The people that cry at the drop of a hat". It is also apparent that you are uncertain of your emotions, and of expressing yourself forthrightly, with strength. Psychologically, one would say we have a person here with some weaknesses in the emotional band of life.
This is where your daughter can quite possibly show you the way. Autism is quite the opposite of your condition. It has been brought forth in your child to bring balance to your one-sided emotional nature. Your daughter in her autism expresses a condition where there is 'lack of emotion'. (I am being stark here to highlight and capture succinctly your possible psychological lesson in only this particular present situation).
Each psychological relationship and situation is unique. Given the situation you have described so far I would expand the scope of the Strength card to include the idea of 'lack of emotion' in the decision you make; this autistic framework could be expanded to the ideas of detachment, disconnection, your own space, and an unconcern for the emotions of others.
From the tarot side I would expand the idea of the Lion in the Strength card to incorporate the Lion's qualities of strength which most embody lack of emotion: ruthlessness, even brutality in the way you approach your decisions and actions.
If what I have covered above seems relevant then you will be developing a tougher instinctual side - the Lion - within, to counter an attitude within yourself which is too emotional/relational.
Secondary note: You may be aware that a Uranus cycle is 7 year one through a sign of the Zodiac (Neptune is 14 yrs, and Pluto 21 yrs). This means that, particularly with significant present situations and events, the cause lies at a time 7 years ago.
For you, the cycle has come round, and it's time to face the consequences of your decisions and actions 7 years ago. It is now your responsibility to do so. From your decisions and actions will flow your life and evolution for the next 7 years, and so on.
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- and your page looks great from a quick dip into it. I'm zapping it to my kindle to read properly. Great that you did this! 