Teheuti
if only yin and yang were that simple and related that easily to the left-right brain, fate-free-will comtroversies but it does provide a nice context for contemplation.
I believe we can choose but only as long as it doesn't clash with another person's will. E.g. we can't choose to be with person A if person A doesn't want that, but we can choose person B if they're willing. When it concerns 'inanimate objects'/situations, things become much easier. Concrete people are tricky, though.
I find it a peculiarly Western attitude that man is "master of his domain," and can completely control his fate.
Everything that matters in life has to do with other people, or involves someone else. Unless we are talking about things life switching on and off the light, or the wasshing machine. And even then, it depends if the technology works, or if there's no power cut at the time, or if the bill has been paid. We can do absolutely NOTHING by ourselves; we are completely powerless.
Saying that we're completely powerless is one absolute, and saying that we have complete power over our life is another absolute. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle, as usual.
Of course, we're all interdependent. Some people in your life will be helpful, some harmful, some hateful, some affectionate. But really, I can pay my bill myself or ask someone helpful to do that, it doesn't require much magic. But even when I don't do it myself, don't I initiate it? And don't I get what I wanted in the end? Where's powerlessness in that?
What I am saying is, our lives are an endless-well, not really endless, if you see what I mean-chain of interrelated events and relations with other people, and nothing can happen if there is a hitch in the passage before the last...you pay the bill because your boss paid your salary, or your client paid you when he should have, and if he was unable to pay you because his wife dumped him and ran away with the milkman,and emptied the bank account, a whole lot of other small or big tragedies could have followed from that....do you see what I mean ? Even the smallest things are part of a balance, or universal equilibrium, that can be smashed to bits by the most unexpected and apparently unrelated-to us- event and ultimately, it results in the fact that everything is out of our control, really....even a stupid thing like paying the electricity bill....
Yes, I see what you mean, but I still fail to see how you make that conclusion in the end.
Perhaps, we're talking about different kinds of control here. What you mean is absolute control ('I want A, and I want to get it through B, C, and D'), and what I mean is more flexible control ('I want A, and I don't mind how I'll get it'). So, in the case of the bill, the easiest way to pay it is my salary, but in case something goes wrong and I don't get it in time, the money comes from a different source, always. For me, at least.