Boyfriend burned my tarot card!!

[Gbgirl1705]

I am new to this forum and a new owner of a tarot deck. I bought the rider Waite deck and followed all instructions made available to fully connect and grow from my new cards. Inhave blessed and cleared my deck with sage, sea salt and I made a special box for them to be stored it where I keep crystals with them too. I created a mission statement and I consecrate, clear, bless, and mark the cards before each reading I give. I have been studying the cards and their history for a month now and I really felt connected with my deck.

My boyfriend and I fought badly this weekend and he took the devil card from my deck and burnt it. I was devastated and offended and he's been acting completely crazy since. This is not typical behavior from him. We are broken up and I don't how to handle the cards.

I bought another deck (same kind) rider Waite. Can I simply put the devil card from my new deck and mix it with the old one. Or should I start anew with the new cards all together? Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Jennifer.
Love and light

 

[darkbookworm13]

That really stinks!

I am so sorry that he burned that card, definitely not ok to do at all. I am glad he isn't in your life anymore, that kind of behavior can be stressful, draining, and dangerous.

I would turn the old deck that is lacking the card into an art project, or attach them to a journal or notebook's pages to journal each card's meanings to you. For the missing card, you could print off a replica and glue it onto the page, so you still have the image to study and become acquainted with.

As for your new deck, I would bless it, and create a ritual to welcome it into your life, and practice. (cleansing it and you with incense, lighting a candle to symbolically burn away that negative influence, etc.). You could also find a bag for your new deck, either by sewing one out of pretty fabric, or finding one in a shop. Beads, painted symbols, and charms can be added to create a special place to store your deck, and protect it (you can also tuck stones, dried herbs, etc. into the bag as well for an extra boost.)

*hug* welcome to the forum, this place is incredibly welcoming, warm, informative, and helpful. It is my favorite site to visit for Tarot-related stuff.

 

[EmpressArwen]

I'm glad you are broken up as that is incredibly disrespectful, abusive and scary behavior.

I think there is no problem with taking the Devil card from another set and putting it with the one you have connected with. People do that all the time when there is a lost or damaged card.

I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope you have a support system around you...hang in there, hon.

 

[Yelell]

That's not good.

http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?t=217645

There's a thread for people looking for extra cards. Try asking there. It's a common deck, there's a good chance someone has a partial deck around.

 

[ravenest]

What a rat ! Good you broke up, as this sort of behaviour would have come out in another (and maybe worse ) way.

Nest time you get a boyfriend bless and clear him with sage, sea salt and make a special box for him to be stored in .

... in other words , put a lot of effort into selecting the right one ... beware of 'internal chemicals' / 'reactions' that might effect this choice.

Get a new deck ... the old one has been tainted ... if only by your memory of the event.

What to do with he old deck ? Send the Trumps to him in the mail, one card per week

 

[Thunder]

Hello and welcome to the forum! I am so sory to hear about your boyfriend and the deck. When things like that happen and some card of your deck is ruined like that you might also consider why this happened to a particular card, to me is like a sign and perhaps if you interpret it you'll learn something of great value for you. I think there will be a lot ahead of you know because this act signifies breaking free of chains, guilt and all the things the Devil like a card means.
About the deck - when you go to the store and buy a deck you just buy a cardstock nothing more. What makes Tarot so special is what you think and how to you treat it, what it means for you. The magic is not in the cards themselves, it's in you interpreting the cards. When you make some ritual about blessing and cleansing the cards it works because you believe it works. So if you think the right thing to do is just to put the new devil into the old deck, then this is the right thing to do. The rule is to make things that feel right in your gut. At least I think so. I have five tarot deck & one oracle and just one of the Tarot decks I've been using is blessed and I have made this blessing long ago when I was more into the Pagan religion and I believed I should introduce .. or sort of ... the cards to the Gods. Now I've taken a different spiritual path and I don't do blessings but I do care for the cards and try to keep them safe and kept in something pretty.

 

[earthair]

Get a new deck ... the old one has been tainted ... if only by your memory of the event.

What to do with he old deck ? Send the Trumps to him in the mail, one card per week

Brilliant advice
Except personally, I wouldn't bother putting a stamp on them

 

[Mystica7]

Gosh... I wonder what was he thinking, and why did he pick up the Devil card if it wasn't a random selection. Was it his favourite or what...

Your (thankfully) ex boyfriend seems seriously dangerous to me.

I believe there is nothing wrong in replacing the card with a new one from another deck.

If you are uncomfortable working with the same deck, bless and ritually bury it under some spot (like a tree) where it won't be disturbed by anything.

 

[firecatpickles]

My second tarot deck, but the first that was given to me, was Rider Waite deck from an ex's sister. (We are all still friends, btw).

In some Spanish cultures it is a tradition (ritual?) to remove the Devil card and burn it. I wouldn't take offense or be too freaked out about it. I would consider it an honor!

 

[Rosewater]

That Devil card really set your ex-boyfriend off - I'd take that as saying something about him. Perhaps all your Tarot deck blessings and intentions triggered his own inner "Devil.' Or perhaps he chose that card to try to freak you out. Either way, you did well to get rid of him (the boyfriend, I mean. The Devil is just an image on a card that can mean different things in different situations).

If it happened to me I'd get a new deck that doesn't carry memories of this horrible incident. And a better boyfriend.