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Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 19 Apr 2004, and now archived in the Forum Library.



eastarot  19 Apr 2004 
Wondering if anyone else faces this. Before I begin reading for my clients I like to give them a 2 minute spiel about Tarot, what it is what it isnt, the kind of questions that work, how it isnt astrology blah blah. Most clients usually understnad and many ask some fabulous questions. However there's still a majority who will nod away and when I shuffle the deck.....they ask

"What's my future?" (after I explain that a specific question helps and how tarot is not really a fortune telling tool)

"Am I pregnant?" (why not spend the money you are spending on this reading on a good home pregnancy test)

"Is he cheating?" (One client wanted to know if he cheated in 1998, then 1999, then 2000 etc she wanted a fresh spread each time)

One word questions "Money", "Career"

Thanks to meditation I have learnt not to react now like I used to earlier. And I usually rephrase their question. Just curious to know if others here face this as well, or is it a purely Asian phenomena? 


contrascarpe  19 Apr 2004 
Hi eastarot -

I have not done any professional readings as of yet so I may not be totally qualified to answer this. I often stop to think how I will handle this when it comes up.

I am quite sure it is not strictly an Asian phenomenon. I have a feeling it is quite prevelent here in the states - probably more so (you just have to see one episode of Jerry Springer to see what I mean, lol).

This is how I would hope to handle it. Accept the question straight-faced with the warning that the cards may not have the answers for such a vague (or specific) question. And then plunge headfirst into a general, no-question reading. I may pull a card first to indicate where the general question is heading and start going from there. If it is something as vague as "money" or "career", then the path should be somewhat clear. If it is something as specific as pregnancy or infidelity, I would probably tip-toe through - depending on how clueless the querent is.

Of course I say all this with no public experience whatsoever. I will probably freeze like a deer in the headlights. When this does finally happen to me, I will report my results .......

Dan 


ros  19 Apr 2004 
I sometimes don't ask them their question.

I tell them to think of what then need or want to know, I let them pull a number of cards & I do a spread. When I'm reading I tell them this is what the cards are telling you at this moment. When I'm done I ask them if the reading has helped in giving them some insight to their question. By the time I get done their reading I either can tell by their remarks & the cards what kind of question it was or they want to tell me what they were asking.

So I don't feel they have to tell you their question. This way also I feel it keeps the ones that don't want to tell you their question more interested in the reading.

Sometimes I give them the option if they want to tell me their questions or not. 


contrascarpe  19 Apr 2004 
ros -

That is valid as well, but if a person is paying their money and has a question, I would feel at least obligated to try to answer it. If the cards don't make sense in context with the question, I would probably then take a different path.

I would be interested to see how many querents would rather just have a general reading. Before I got very serious with tarot, if I found myself somewhere with my fiancee where they have readings, she would always get her readings done but would take off her ring first. She would then just ask for a general reading and would only give info if a question was asked of her ..... she would not volunteer any info otherwise.

Dan 


ros  19 Apr 2004 
Yes I understand what you are saying Dan.

I make sure either way the reading goes (question or no question) that they get some kind of insight or validation from the reading before they leave. 


closrapexa  19 Apr 2004 
Yeah, I've had that, but more often I feel I'm dealing with total invalidation. I find myself asking myself why this person has asked for a reading if they do not want to deal with the questions at ahnd. I can point to a problematic area in a querents life, and they change the subject, or ask me things like when will I get married. Then, at the end of the reading, even if it goes well, they tell me "Well, I don't believe in that stuff anyway.
But then, I take it all as another lesson in dealing with people. 


ZardKravell  19 Apr 2004 
Greetings Eastarot!

Quote:
Originally posted by eastarot
Wondering if anyone else faces this. Before I begin reading for my clients I like to give them a 2 minute spiel about Tarot, what it is what it isnt, the kind of questions that work, how it isnt astrology blah blah. Most clients usually understnad and many ask some fabulous questions. However there's still a majority who will nod away and when I shuffle the deck.....they ask



Thanks to meditation I have learnt not to react now like I used to earlier. And I usually rephrase their question. Just curious to know if others here face this as well, or is it a purely Asian phenomena?


Well, I can most certainly assure you it is not a purely Asian phenomena. It, at least, exists in South America also, and it is quite widespread ;)
I also give a small introduction when someone asks me for a reading, I specifically detail that Tarot is not predictive, that the future is not written on stone and a lot of other things... and still I get questions like the ones you mention. I believe it is in the common image of Tarot that people ground this ideas from... that the Tarot reader is some sort of supernatural being who can foretell their future.
What I do about it is try to rephrase their questions, working with them. I do a spread I feel it's appropiate to their general topic of concern, and then start reading... if the querent is cooperative, it usually evolves into a dialog, if he or she prefers to be quiet, then I do my best to give a broad perspective and later advise them to not to take my words at face value... to meditate and reflect on them... and hopefully, most of them do ;)
Many of my regular consultants have started asking questions like those you describe, but in time they found out a deeper understanding on how Tarot can help them... it's a two way process, and in due time, less artful questions disappear and real growth begins ;)

May the stars shine on you, 


TemperanceAngel  19 Apr 2004 
People will always ask those kind of questions, that's just the way it goes being a Tarot reader...

Why don't you try and make it fun?

I don't give people a speel about the Tarot before hand, I generally ask them if they have had a reading before:

Yes: When was the last reading?

No: How exciting your first reading!

I then do a past, present and future spread with no questions and then go on to questions from there. That's the part I explain to them (and that's pretty much all I say too). The exception is this: if I can tell that they are really only at the reading to ask a question then I will ask them what they want me to focus on.

eastarot, I know it can be frustrating (let me tell you that I have heard too many times: When will I meet Mr. Right, where, what work does he do etc...)

The flip side is it's an honour to read Tarot and meet amazing and interesting people, and you get to help and heal people sometimes too!

XTAX 


miss_apples  20 Apr 2004 
The general questions like "money" and "career" dont bother me. However I do warn that vauge questions sometimes get vague awnsers.

When I get asked questions regarding a partners fedelity...I usually just do a basic relationship reading using Umbraes relationship spread...that usually tells them what they need to know regarding the relationship. I tell them that I really cant see if theres any cheating but I can see if there are the conditions for it or not and how their partner feels regarding the relationship. 


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