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Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 13 Jun 2005, and now archived in the Forum Library.



Greywoolfe  13 Jun 2005 
I'm learning the craft at the moment, and after having obtained my first deck (Losches' beautiful Cosmic deck) I'm finding it tricky to get the necessary personal space to familiarise myself with the deck, and read my reference material. Basically, I work 12- hour shifts, and I live in a modest-sized house with my wife and two in-laws. (Don't worry- we get along fine! :) ) The problem is that sometimes, the atmosphere at home can get pretty chaotic, so it's difficult for me to focus and centre myself enough to be able to open myself to my deck and books due to all the distractions that occur. Can anyone recommend any focussing exercises, or offer any practical advice that can help? Am I being too impatient to learn? Any advice would be welcome! 


earth en lady  13 Jun 2005 
I too have this problem with two small children and a very small house ,but I have found I can tune into my cards and focus ,so that I can use them anytime even if someone is trying to distract me (except the kids the cards stay well and truly out of the way :) ).Not sure how it happens ,but I seem to have a space inside me which is still and thats where I go .However saying that a garden shed would be handy :)
blessings
earth en lady 


Fudugazi  13 Jun 2005 
Like earthen lady, circumstances forced me to find my personal space within when I had none without. I worked many years as a humanitarian in war zones, and personal space (my own room, or any room, or even a real bed) was often a luxury. I found it possible to reduce it to a minimun. A mattress on the floor in a shelter or a tent in some cases.

If you can go outdoors (park - or garden if you have one) then you can find some space there (in my case, I was sometimes not able to do that, depending on where I found myself. But in some places it was possible, and very enjoyable because I was not only communing with my deck, I was also connecting with our mother earth). I also learnt to read anywhere, in any circumstance.

As for dealing with noise - there are several ways. You can learn to shut it out; or you can use a walkman with soothing meditative music.

The day you are lucky to have enough actual space - you will appreciate it twice as much, as I do now in a quiet flat! Perhaps you can learn all this as you learn the craft and your deck, and set yourself as a goal to have a "room of your own". You can visualise it and practice your manifestation exercises that way! 


Greywoolfe  13 Jun 2005 
Helvetica wrote:
Like earthen lady, circumstances forced me to find my personal space within when I had none without. I worked many years as a humanitarian in war zones, and personal space (my own room, or any room, or even a real bed) was often a luxury. I found it possible to reduce it to a minimun. A mattress on the floor in a shelter or a tent in some cases.

If you can go outdoors (park - or garden if you have one) then you can find some space there (in my case, I was sometimes not able to do that, depending on where I found myself. But in some places it was possible, and very enjoyable because I was not only communing with my deck, I was also connecting with our mother earth). I also learnt to read anywhere, in any circumstance.

As for dealing with noise - there are several ways. You can learn to shut it out; or you can use a walkman with soothing meditative music.

The day you are lucky to have enough actual space - you will appreciate it twice as much, as I do now in a quiet flat! Perhaps you can learn all this as you learn the craft and your deck, and set yourself as a goal to have a "room of your own". You can visualise it and practice your manifestation exercises that way!


Helvetica- you've certainly opened my eyes! :eek: To have found your own space amidst the horrors of a war zone must have surely taken much effort- I'll count myself lucky to have never experienced anything like that- much respect to you! I'll have to practice meditation and focussing techniques, methinks- a garden shed is out of the question! I think my problem is that I'm a very sensitive person, so I get easily distracted. I'm sure my sensitivity will help me practise the craft well, but it can be a challenge to remain centred in a busy group- I'll have to exercise more self-discipline.

:T2C 


Astra  13 Jun 2005 
Rather than trying to ignore what's going on around you, you might try pulling a card to represent it - then focus on what it may be telling you about the particular person or event.

Sometimes if you include an interruption in what you're doing, it isn't one any more. 


autumn star  13 Jun 2005 
I have a similar kind of problem - it's hard to find enough peace and queit and time alone to concentrate on readings. I wait until everyone else is out an I'm alone or else I don't feel like reading.

I also have this thing - where before I do any kind of reading, I have to make sure that basically my whole house is completely clean and tidy - especially the place where I am reading - or else I can't concentrate on the reading - so doing readings can now become quite time consuming as I incliude my ritual cleaning - I often pick flowers to put in the place of my reading to clear anything that might negative :) 


mnemosyne7  13 Jun 2005 
Astra wrote:
Rather than trying to ignore what's going on around you, you might try pulling a card to represent it - then focus on what it may be telling you about the particular person or event.

Sometimes if you include an interruption in what you're doing, it isn't one any more.


Astra - That is brilliantly said! 


autumn star  13 Jun 2005 
It just occured to me that what I do, if I am doing a reading for myself or someone else, is that I plan ahead and set aside a certain time when I will be alone and able to concentrate on the reading. If you feel that you can't find enough peace and quiet to do your readings - make sure that you have a certain time set aside to do your readings - and make sure that you do them :) 


Greywoolfe  13 Jun 2005 
Thanks everyone for your sage advice- I really must discipline myself more!! I like Astras' advice on pulling a card- I'll try that next time I get any interruptions... 


augursWell  13 Jun 2005 
Two of Cups wrote:
Thanks everyone for your sage advice- I really must discipline myself more!! I like Astras' advice on pulling a card- I'll try that next time I get any interruptions...
I don't want to sound negative but I don't think it is a case of needing more discipline. I think it is a case of making it more a part of the situation you find yourself in. In other words, Tarot is not something separate from your living situation, it is part of it. I can understand how things like reading require concentration, at least for me, and thus need peace and quiet. But the goal of learning Tarot card meanings is to find reflections of each card in the life around you. Don't try to set yourself apart from life in order to learn Tarot.

If it were me I might take the in-laws and wife and find a court card that fits each of them. Or pulling a daily card and then thinking about it for the day, whenever something reminds you of that card during the day, is a good way to start. I will sometimes pull a quick card from my current deck just before going to work in the morning and then reflect on it during the day. All you need to do is look at it. :)

Later on, when you want to do a reading, you can do your meditations, rituals, prayers, etc. and ask for guidance through the cards. Likely you will find a good time to do that eventually but by then you will know the cards fairly well. 


Emeraldgirl  14 Jun 2005 
I have had problems finding time for tarot at different times in my life also. Sometimes you have to organise yourself when there are just not enough hours in a day. I eventually solved this for myself by alloting a study time a couple of nights a week where I could be alone with my cards for an hour or two and not be disturbed. It has worked very well I just need the disipline to focuse solely on tarot at the time :P 


The Personal space problems. thread was originally posted on 13 Jun 2005 in the Talking Tarot board, and is now archived in the Forum Library. Read the threads in Talking Tarot, or read more archived threads.

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