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Thread originally posted on the Aeclectic Tarot Forum on 04 Aug 2001, and now archived in the Forum Library.

ericadoe  04 Aug 2001 
I just wanted to get some thoughts on a relationship spread that someone showed me resently. It is a PPF with one card above to signify the thoughts and feelings of the other person to the querie, and one card below to signify the thoughts and feelings of the querie to the other person. I had never seen it before (and I must be really out of the loop 'cause the person who showed it to me was like "DUH!") Any one have any thoughts on using this spread? 

arizonagirl  05 Aug 2001 
A relationship is a very complex and multi-layered thing. As such, three cards just aren't enough, IMHO. 

EveAnna  05 Aug 2001 
In one of my books I have a relationship spread that uses 15 cards, I haven't used it yet :) 

Marion  06 Aug 2001 
I agree with arizonagirl and EveAnna. A relationship spread that simple likely wouldn't be enough. Having said that, the Osho Zen Tarot book has an even shorter one. Just four cards:

1 2
3 4
1: you and what you are contributing to the relationship
2. The other person, and what s/he is contributing
3. the composite energies, and
4. The insight.

I have used it a couple of times, but I cannot say that i got a whole lot out of it.
Sorry, I am actually trying to be helpful here. :-) 

destinyawaitsme  06 Aug 2001 
I have been known to use that 4 card spread, but I find I can get more from a celtic cross. 

.dc  07 Aug 2001 
I use a 7 card spread for these things. sorta a combo 3 card for each person/cause-effect of the energies coming together.

1 2
5 6

cards 1-3 = person #1, and where they are at
cards 4-6= person #2, and their current stuff
card 7= final outcome, what effect would the energies have of joining the two together

hope this helps!
blessed be,

Kiama  09 Aug 2001 
I have always used what is known by me as the Kiss Spread, cuz it is shaped like a kiss....

Card 1 is a significator, sometimes chosen by the person, sometimes by the deck...


It is useful when asking about a specific relationship. Card two is the querents past love life, card three their present, card 4, their future, card 4, how they see their lover, and card 5 is how the lover ses them. Card 6 is the outcome.

Fairly base and simple, but works.


catlin  10 Aug 2001 

I prefer using the "H" spread


cards 1 and 2 are the past, cards 3 and 4 are the present, cards 5 and 6 are the future and card 7 is what holds the couple together. 

seeker_11  30 Sep 2001 
The following spread I have used for others and myself:


1, 3 & 5 signify the querant
2, 4 & 6 signify the partner
1 & 2: the respective position in the relation as it is at the moment
3 & 4: What can be learned/achieved in the relationship
5 & 6: Possibilities for improovement and growth
7: outcome in present situation

This spread should work for all kinds of relationships... from professional to very personal.

But the one time I wanted to use this spreak for my relationship with the person who I now may call my lover, I was surprised with a quartet of falling cards that made reading the spread a little redundant.

Hope this may be useful. 

Thirteen  30 Sep 2001 
The relationship spread I use is this one:


1 is how querent views partner. 2 is how partner views querent. 3 is how querent views relationship (where it's at, where it's going, good/bad in it). 4 is how partner views relationship. 5 is what they BOTH need to know (an objective truth) in order for things to work--usually it's something they both don't know, or only one knows (like, they've got to start listening to each other more, something like that). 

Major Tom  01 Oct 2001 
Wow! I am completely impressed with everyone's spreads! Can't wait to give a few a try. }>

Here's a spread I use - a pyramid spread:

-4 5
1 2 3

1. Represents early days in the relationship.
2. Represents a significant event that occurred along the way.
3. Represents how the relationship changed as a result.
4. Represents the situation as it now stands.
5. Represents the challenge you face.
6. Indicates the action you should take.

My girlfriend and I periodically use this spread together. }> 

Thirteen  01 Oct 2001 
Major Tom (01 Oct, 2001 17:16):
Here's a spread I use - a pyramid spread:

Oh, I like this one! Nice to have a focus on a seminal, past event to give perspective on a new challenge. Good one. 

Dagda  01 Oct 2001 
I like this one:

Relationship Spread


1) How you see the other person

2) How the other person sees you

3) What you need

4) What the other person needs

5) Where the relationship is now

6) Where you would like the relationship to go

7) Where the other person would like it to go

8) Factors to be considered

9) The end result 

Kimon  19 Nov 2001 

I use the following relationship spread:


5,8,12,9 are one person, 10,13,11,7 the other, being 12 and 13 the motivation, the past, the why of the relationship for each, 5 and 7 the ideal, the dream, the goal of each, 8 an 11 the true way each looks at the relationship, 9 and 10 the face each shows to the other person, 6 and 4 the outcome of the present situation, near future or present situation (sometimes I just use one card, not two here), 2 and 3 are what will come out of all this, 1 the solution in the future. For a more-behind-look at positions 5,8,12,7,11 or 13 I put another card besides them. For me this spread has given very good results.


The A relationship spread? thread was originally posted on 04 Aug 2001 in the Using Tarot Cards board, and is now archived in the Forum Library. Read the threads in Using Tarot Cards, or read more archived threads.

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