Barleywine
Radical thought.
Maybe they AREN'T wrong. Maybe we just aren't hearing them right.
Yes, "selective hearing," both the bane and boon of married life! In this case, though, it's more about hearing only what fits into our preconceptions about the situation (wait . . . is that so different?) Humans seem to have a "gated awareness" that screens out or neutralizes inconvenient truths.