Shutting out the social noise to find out what is true and real
I was doing a love spread and in the position "my love for him" I was expecting to pull any other card but the Hermit, since this is a card of loneliness, the past, withdrawal.
The Hermit is about withdrawal, but not about loneliness. to the contrary, the Hermit is about wanting to be in solitude--meaning, not wanting any outside judgement, interference or bias. Wanting, to shut out the noise, the assumptions, the exhaustion of being social. That's a whole lot different from loneliness. Loneliness is you want to socialize, and there is no one to socialize with. Solitude is you want to curl up and dive into a book (or paint, or garden, or just enjoy an evening with your cat), and not be disturbed by anyone.
Nor is the Hermit about the past. The Hermit takes his lantern and goes forth into the future. He travels down roads untraveled, shedding his light into dark places and de-mystifying them
Think Sherlock Holmes with his magnifying glass. He may or may not reveal his findings to others, what matters to him is that he discover the truth.
What does this say about your love for him? I think it's very powerful and strong. Your love for him wants to get him (and you) away from the madding crowd, as it were. Not texted about, not appearing on anyone's social media page. It maybe bothers you to see him being asked stupid (prying) questions by others--and it bothers you if you're asked stupid (prying) questions about him. Your love for him is so strong, and so focused that all you want is to be alone with him, so you can really get to know him.
You don't want to "own him" (that'd be 4/Pents)...but you want time with him to yourself, just the two of you. So you can find out what is true and real.