Your natal Saturn is in a poor state. It's Retrograde and it's in its Fall. Even worse it afflicts Mercury by square (Mercury is your Descendant ruler and therefore the significator of your ex. Now I had a look at your chart through Whole Sign Houses, and that puts Mercury in the eighth (a bad placment) opposite your second house ruled by Saturn. The eighth also signifies inheritances and other people's money. So afflicted Mercury here is not going to bode well for finances from either source. Saturn is in the dominant position relative to Mercury, so Mercury will definitely find it difficult to deliver what it's supposed to. Basically your ex was not a good partner.
"Basically your ex was not a good partner."
I'd found that out by myself! Money-wise he is dreadful, irresponsible and lies about it, but not just woolly-headed and scared of the details (like anyone who's bad with money), but seems to set out deliberately to buy the most expensive, least value, etc. "Can't afford" to spend £30 today on something that will save £300 over a year, etc. And controlling, knows he's bad with money, but in 24 years I never managed to get any say in the budgeting - which we both knew I'm good at.
Odd about Mercury being his significator. I feel it sums me up pretty well in many ways. Except the siblings association; I'm an only child. But I've always felt an affinity for Mercury, Hermes, Thoth, that lot.
I'm feeling pretty cross with Saturn.
Saturn is certainly near the IC, so there may well be a drain on either real estate or the family in some way from a financial perspective. By whole Sign Houses Saturn is in the fifth house of Good Fortune, which in the ancient world was fundamentally children and good health. So it's no surprise that your financial situation adversely affects your abitity to enjoy life and it might well affect your ability to bear the financial cost of children, without sacrificing elsewhere.
Well, I wasn't interested in money in the early days but because my ex was the main earner, and I didn't know he was making it up depending on the conversation, money was always tight - which in fact it wasn't (he's always earned loads) but it did lead to me being cautious spending on clothes, outings, gifts, everything. Fifth house, eh. I've also had various children and health problems over the years. I have chronic health problems now... and have had post-traumatic stress following childbirth, and (separately) a son who died in infancy. Then my eldest has various troubles that screw with everyone around him, and while the youngest is fine, he has ADHD can be a huge energy drain. The oldest is also costing money because he's just like his dad in those matters - not too much, I'm defending myself against it - and the youngest is home educated which costs, but my ex refuses to help even with the big one-offs because "that's what your child maintenance is for"
(maintenance = alimony). Let alone holidays etc.
Real estate... I inherited from my mother four years ago, and a lot of it went to my ex to make the divorce sums balance (being the only assets the marriage had), then a large chunk went out when my benefits were cut without warning (and without justification) forcing me to buy a car out of what was about to come in when my mother's house sold... there isn't anyone else who I'm going to inherit from in future...
and I've never had a high-earning job, and now am studying all I can about passive income and non-orthodox work so as to earn without being able to go back to the 9-to-5. I have all the skills and the right attitude, but poor health limits (Saturnian word) my hours to about 1/6 of "normal". That is a day a week, equivalent. Meanwhile state benefits (= welfare) look like reducing severely in the next year or so.
Oh, and second house: all the possession I inherited are still heaped in the garage and in every room of the house, because they came here when I was too ill to sort through them, and have been left. Mice looking for nesting materials have probably had most of them, and most of them are fabric as my gran was a dressmaker and toymaker... I was going to use my mum's furniture as ours is 24+ years old(!) and sell the clothes and other things I couldn't use, but instead am living in a warehouse and even just giving it all away is a task bigger than I am. My assumption that a husband, even a lazy one, will join in with sorting through, at least lifting and moving the heavy things, was wrong... In the old days (15+ years ago) I was a hoarder, because I was brought up to be but am not by nature, and most of that stuff is still around too because I was too busy and then not strong enough to clear it. So there isn't as much space in the rooms of this house as their actual size, if you see what I mean.
It would be nice to see something less uncomfortable relating to materialistic concerns in my chart.
These things don't have to be continuous. They may be one offs, or occur only a couple of times. It doesn't mean that because one partner failed, all partners will fail. Nor does it mean that having financial difficulties relating to family or children will always be present. Unlike Modern Astrology, Hellenistic Astrology recognises that all the chart is not always active and that one signification in a chart may just relate to one event in your life, not constant non stop misery or joy. Even so, Saturn at some point will cause trouble. It's not trouble from which you can't recover, because you have a Day chart and Saturn is less malefic in a Day Chart. Moreover you have Sun in Leo and Jupiter in Leo, they're ninth house in WSH and so will do a fair amount to counteract Saturn in your life. But the financial side that is likely to be the problem area, when one occurs.
I hope the pattern does turn round. My childhood was pretty privileged, I was never told "can't afford it" or given that as a reason for saying no to anything, though I now know we weren't well-off at all. More than once I've been told I will have a comfortable old age - I honestly can't remember if that has been via astrology, but it's been said in different ways, for different reasons, by completely separate people and even in dream dictionaries (from dreams that didn't appear to have anything in common). In fact that was partly in my mind when I started asking about the houses and the stages of life, wondering if astrology had been one of the ways I heard my old age will be materially ok.
I do like my Sun and Jupiter! Ninth fits me very much, higher education and travel (though during the marriage I hardly travelled, but before it - and, I'm determined, after it - worldwide travel is a major theme). Seeing them in the eighth, though, also fits in many ways, from the various interpretations you get of that house.
Now I will start mindset-switching to take on board that the Saturn side of my chart can be INactive for much of my life.
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