Spread suggestion for me?

akmstarlight

I was wondering about a spread for me.
I am with a wonderful man. We've been together for a combined total of 3.5 years (a 2.5 year break before we decided to give it another go). I know that I want to spend my life with him.

The problem is that I have trouble relating my feelings. I tend to put up barriers and don't treat him like I should. I tend to have sarcastic responses to him. I know he loves me but often gets frustrated with the way I respond to him, even though we both know I love him deep down.

So I guess my question is, what spread could help me figure out how to overcome this problem? Or how can I maximize the strengths in our relationship? Your responses are appreciated.
-akmstarlight

Amanda

There's a spread in my Power Tarot book:

1. Nature of the problem:
2. Cause of the problem:
3. Solution to the problem:

Maybe that can help..

Keir Myrkvetr

There is this pretty neat spread posted here : http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?s=&threadid=15339 by Inana.

4
____1
__2___6_7
____3
5

1-. What is the problem?
2-. How do you feel about it?
3-. What is the real problem?
4-. What can help to solve it?
5-. What can make it worse?
6-. What comes after.
7-. What can you learn about this?

I used it two or three times for problematic situations and it was spot on and to the point. Maybe even a liiiittle bit difficult to accept, sometimes, but that's a good thing for me

akmstarlight

Amanda_04 said:
There's a spread in my Power Tarot book:

1. Nature of the problem:
2. Cause of the problem:
3. Solution to the problem:

Maybe that can help..

Very simple! I like it.
One question though: What is the difference between the Nature of the problem and the Cause of the problem?

Amanda

akmstarlight said:
Very simple! I like it.
One question though: What is the difference between the Nature of the problem and the Cause of the problem?

I read the nature of the problem as the present circumstances surrounding it; whether that be an emotion, action resulting from, or physical state. I read the 'cause' as what brought the nature of it about... so the nature is kind of "what's happening" and the cause is the "why".

akmstarlight

Keir Myrkvetr said:
There is this pretty neat spread posted here : http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?s=&threadid=15339 by Inana.

4
____1
__2___6_7
____3
5

1-. What is the problem?
2-. How do you feel about it?
3-. What is the real problem?
4-. What can help to solve it?
5-. What can make it worse?
6-. What comes after.
7-. What can you learn about this?

I used it two or three times for problematic situations and it was spot on and to the point. Maybe even a liiiittle bit difficult to accept, sometimes, but that's a good thing for me

Just tried this spread and absolutely loved it!
I think it really helped to get to the root of the matter, and although I am a little confused by some of the cards, I am going to post in the "Readings" forum to try and obtain more insight than I have found myself.
Great spread, though....going to write down this gem.

akmstarlight

Amanda_04 said:
I read the nature of the problem as the present circumstances surrounding it; whether that be an emotion, action resulting from, or physical state. I read the 'cause' as what brought the nature of it about... so the nature is kind of "what's happening" and the cause is the "why".

Ahh, I see now.
Thanks for the clarification!