I had this situation in a reading for a young lady last week who was considering what to do about her relationship with her boyfriend. The Tower was in the "action" position, but reversed. The boyfriend (Page of Swords) was in the outcome position, and also reversed. It looked like he was either distracted, wasn't paying enough attention to her, or wasn't capable of being whom she wanted him to be. I told her the Tower rx was suggesting that she not give in to the urge to just "burn down the house" and start over. That option was clearly on her mind, and she had been wrestling with it; I told her the reversal could reflect her inner struggle for liberation, and that it would be best to settle things in her own mind and not act impulsively. I also mentioned that the Tower can show a sudden realization or epiphany (symbolized by the lightning bolt), and that - if her relationship had recently taken a turn for the worse - she could be feeling a relentless (but also reckless) compulsion to do something about it, while the reversal cautioned that it might not be the wisest course of action. The 3 of Wands came between the two cards, which I consider a card of patient anticipation, so I told her that and the Tower rx both lobbied against overreacting.