Thank you all for your feedback. I got over two pages of them, and I've visited here daily since the beginning, reading new posts.
I've been thinking of answering sooner, but I've thought that people could interpert it as my way of saying, "Enough answers, thank you." so I've been quiet because as I've stated, I enjoy getting feedback.. But by now some the earliest feeback are half weeks old so I want to start answering.
I don't think this is the right place for this question (Talking Tarot, probably)
You were right and the moderators soon moved the thread here.
I won't generally respond to health, legal or third party ("what does he think of me" readings. Yes/no ones don't grab my attention, as I don't think tarot is the right place to ask them. And - let's face it - will he come back to me/how can I make him come back to me/why hasn't he texted me ones - they are so samey.
I don't tend to respond to legal readings either. Also, readings concerning others, for example a question, "Has he an affair behind my back?" get me unnerved and I don't usually answer to those, since I tend to imagine a situation where the third person would read my interpretation. What would he think of it?
I never do yes/no questions as they are too dichotomic in their nature. I usually do readings which respond to questions, "what, why, how". Some of my readings could fall the the pit you mentioned here.
But one big one is - the same person asking the same question over and over, hoping to get the answer they want; turning the question around to try and get that, and so on - and being in total denial when other posters disagree. There are individuals who do that and I avoid their threads like the plague. And quite often you can see from the preamble that that's what's coming, and so - no.
I admit I may have been doing multiple readings for one person, for example one every half years, to see if a situation has improved or if it has taken steps back, since getting to know one, bonding with a person is a process, not something which happens in a moment. At least this is what it is for me.
However, I do not try to twist questions to get an answer that I want to have (for example try to have a positive answer for a question. This is not something that I do). And even when I get an answer, I try to look both sides of the coin.
I respond if I believe I have something useful to contribute, or if the reading clicks with me and I've gotten a sense of clarity from it that might resonate with the original reader. The only reason I don't respond (if I've read the thread) is if I don't think my insight will be helpful or useful to the poster.
I don't avoid threads based on any value judgments of question style or type, or on question frequency. If insight resonates with me, I respond. I make no qualifying determinations about a question's worth or redundancy. I try to be welcoming and neutral in all cases.
In fact, I'm one of the rare few that does not mind people asking the same quesitons, as the answers are most often congruent, or they reflect the fluid and changing nature of life and therefore *do* change as they should. Things change and multiple readings on the same vein can reveal a lot about the language of your cards and your perceptions as the situation unfolds.
I completely agree with you here.
I also agree that things can change over time and sometimes multiple readings are necessary as new information may have surfaced.
I actually like really long reads! So that would make me want to come and sit, not deter me.
Personally I don't sit a whole whole lot for a few reasons (none of which have anything to do with the reader asking for sitters):
1- I don't have a whole lot to ask, so I prefer doing the readings.
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2- I am worried that the question back is something that I don't want to read on. Not to sound stuck up (as I have been called) but there are topics I just don't read on. (Gregory's message is pretty much word for word what I read and not read on)
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3- If there is a time constraint then I don't sit. So if someone says doing readings, must give feedback and exchange in an hour then I pass. Life is busy the pressure of the time to give an in depth reading gets to me. Silly I know, but some times it takes a day or two to get back and I don't want to break the readers rules.
Did that help?
Yes, your answer was helpful =)
So yeah, it really does seem that some people prefer longer readings, other people shorter ones. This extends to the subject matter of the readings too. Everyone simply has their own preferences.
I reply if I have something to contribute and the reading catches my fancy at the time... or challenges me to think 'now how would I answer that?..."
Plus - it depends on my energy level. Sometimes - I just don't have the energy to trawl through everything and then reply.
Like gregory, I'm not partial to 3rd party or yes/no questions. But on occasion I will answer those too.
I tend to be quite concise myself and find I get twitchy if the interpretation has a huge amount of the description of the card before the actual interpretation arrives. Plus if the interpretation is 4 paragraphs long - when it could all be said in 4 lines.
Once again you're a great example of how everyone has their own preferences! =)
I guess it simply boils down to the thing, that everyone should do what he or she feels comfortable and natural in doing. However, this is not to discourage change and transformation.
Actually - I thought I'd see if I could see any reason that you'd not got responses, and maybe to respond myself - and yes, I can, on the most recent one.
I couldn't cope. Not the length; but you've gone back and added extra comments about what you have since read (which isn't actually part of the reading; that's more sort of "using tarot cards" discussion, IMHO).
If you had left it with just that first post, it would have been more likely that I'd have responded. But the other two posts just confused me. I like to look at the cards someone has drawn and interpret them as I see them, the end. Not what you have just read after doing the reading.
If that is any help at all - and others will probably disagree anyway. But you did ask if it was your threads being a problem - and for me, yes it is. Sorry to be blunt.
There's no need to be sorry. Sometimes the hard words have the most truth.
I'd like to give an explanation of why I did the extra posts. This is not to defend myself of what I did was right but I'd like to at least give an explanation to why I did it.
The original thread had moved down to the beginning of page 3 and I was fairly sure people wouldn't notice the thread anymore, let alone answer to it. But I couldn't bump the thread just for the sake of bumping. From my understanding it's forbidden at the forum. So I would have to try to find something extra to add to the thread. The things which I found were new information but just as you said, they felt a bit.. I don't know, unnecessary ,as just like you said, they weren't really an essential element of the reading.
Anyways, I thought that this could perhaps bring at least one or two comments for the thread, as it was now again at the page 1, but with the information you brought up here, the thread ended up becoming more confusing!
This is a habit I will no longer continue doing. If my thread will not get comments or feedback, then it is simply destined to be so. For me to try to do anything other in the thread is just selfish behavior.
I will get back to the feedback here later on. Now I need to take a break.
I hope that I'm not rubbing people the wrong way with my answers here. My objective here is not to judge if your preferences of doing things are right or wrong - or to somehow convince you that
"answering" to my readings is for some reason the right thing to do.
However, I've gotten feedback and I'm grateful for it and do like to give at least some kind of comments instead of just saying, "Thank you". Some of the answers here really resonated with me and I had to get some time off to meditate on it. The results were a bit of transformative in their nature.
