entropy
It was suggested that, rather than going by an existing spread, I could create my own that was sensitive to the things I really wanted to know. This is what I came up with...
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17-18----------------------------13-14
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9-10-11-12-------2--1---------5-6-7-8
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15-16---------------------------19--20
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1-You and Your Partner Together
2-The Marriage
3-The Other
4-You
5-The Other’s Hope
6-The Other’s Fear
7-The Other’s Strength
8-The Other’s Weakness
9-Your Hope
10-Your Fear
11-Your Strength
12-Your Weakness
13-The Other’s life after the divorce
14-The Other’s life if you stay married
15-Your life after the divorce
16-Your life if you stay married
17-Overall, the outcome if you divorce
18-Overall, the outcome if you stay married
19-How to fix the marriage in the next week
20-How to fix the marriage in the next month
21-How to fix the marriage in the next year
22-Why does the other hold on to the marriage?
23-Why do you hold on to the marriage?
I'm not done digesting the cards that showed up when I did this for myself, but it certainly has given me a lot to think about...
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17-18----------------------------13-14
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9-10-11-12-------2--1---------5-6-7-8
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15-16---------------------------19--20
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1-You and Your Partner Together
2-The Marriage
3-The Other
4-You
5-The Other’s Hope
6-The Other’s Fear
7-The Other’s Strength
8-The Other’s Weakness
9-Your Hope
10-Your Fear
11-Your Strength
12-Your Weakness
13-The Other’s life after the divorce
14-The Other’s life if you stay married
15-Your life after the divorce
16-Your life if you stay married
17-Overall, the outcome if you divorce
18-Overall, the outcome if you stay married
19-How to fix the marriage in the next week
20-How to fix the marriage in the next month
21-How to fix the marriage in the next year
22-Why does the other hold on to the marriage?
23-Why do you hold on to the marriage?
I'm not done digesting the cards that showed up when I did this for myself, but it certainly has given me a lot to think about...