Barleywine
No, the question was about what she was looking for in a relationship. The answer was the reversed Tower. She didn't like seeing the Tower, which is understandable. It's a scary type of card. But if the Tower represents breaking down old structures, isn't one of it's possible reversed meanings the *opposite* of breakdown, e.g., stability? The more meaningful question is why is the answer posed in this way? If the answer to what you're looking for in a relationship was really stability, is a reversed Tower really what you would expect to see? I doubt it. It likely indicates deep feelings of instability and wanting NOT to feel that way--something along those lines. Otherwise, how would you interpret a reversed Tower in answer to that question? Would you think the person was likely to achieve a stable relationship? The reversal was very eye opening.
I don't think reversal can eliminate the inevitability that a trump card implies (my take on them is that you can neither avoid not fully deflect their impact, so your only choice is to adapt or adjust as creatively as possible). With the Tower rx I sometimes see it as a slow-motion collapse that gives time to maneuver and compensate, perhaps blunting some of the sting; other times it suggests a slow fall that could result in more of a "soft landing" (the people look like they will land on their feet after all). Reversal could provide a bit of emotional distance from the immediacy of the event and less of a knee-jerk response.