obsidian_queen
As a follow up to the first thread I posted (How would each of these men propose?), I'm putting up my musings on the issue directed at the queens of the tarot. Been a lil nervous at posting these, but I felt the first thread went SO well and I was able to understand things so much better thanks to you guys I thought, what the hec. The point is to learn, and this is all a great exercise.
Since I'm a woman this is WAY more detailed because I can imagine and relate to the queens much easier. Also I included little categories like attire, reaction etc because I feel that this helps explain the personalities of the queen in a clearer fashion. Sorry though. REAL long post.
What kind of wedding would these women want?
Queen of Cups
Reaction:
Is a crier. When her guy pops the question, Niagara Falls baby. Says “YES!” a million times. This is the woman who is likely to be “in love with love” and gets emotional, even if she knew this was coming. Hugs and kisses him to the point where he can’t breathe. May be close to hysterical for quite some time, so be careful about surprising her – not saying don’t do it, just be prepared when you do. Can’t stop looking at the ring…goes into a daze whenever she does.
Planning the wedding:
Will have worried herself silly and stressed herself out to the point where she develops a nervous twitch about this wedding. Even though she has a wedding planner, she may still obsess over things, and drive her hired help insane. She may be grateful when someone steps in and says, “don’t you worry, just leave it to me” but will nevertheless find herself worrying that the people to whom she has entrusted certain tasks will somehow not do them to her liking.
Everything has to be perfect.
The actual event
Will want the wedding that every little girl dreams about. Basically wants to literally be “queen for a day”; every woman’s fantasy. Wants everything right out of a fairytale , including a horse-drawn carriage and rose petals strewn before her.
She will be NERVOUS.
Will cry when the groom says his vows and while she says her own.
Will want the entire thing recorded so she can play it years later and relive the moment again and again. This will be a way for her to escape if she should need some kind of release, particularly if her relationship should head south. That way she can sit by herself, and create her own little world and cry over each little memory captured on tape. Even if things don’t go bad with her marriage I feel she may still do this from time to time.
The attire- What would this kind of woman wear?
I feel that she is the one who may stick closest to the traditional idea of weddings and may do the “something old, something new…” thing. I feel this woman goes for pearls (jewels from the sea) and/or fabric with a shimmery, gauzy effect that makes her look like she is floating, something out of a dream. I think cups have an ethereal quality to them and this would show up in their taste of clothing.
Queen of Wands
Reaction:
Is not really a crier, but may still get very emotional when her man proposes. Will especially love it if he goes all out before actually popping the question; will not mind at all if it’s in public (she’s not likely to get embarrassed by public displays, but if she’s not inclined to say yes, she probably will say “no” in front of everyone and embarrass HIM). Can’t stop looking at the ring (better be one helluva rock too)…shows it to everyone.
Planning the Wedding
Will want to have a direct hand in planning her own wedding. ..Believes in the saying “If you want a job done right, you gotta do it yourself.” Everything must be run by her first and she gets the final say. Will not be steamrolled over by pushy in-laws, girlfriends or relatives. Does things HER way…and her husband can help too of course…but only if he doesn’t get in her way. Actually it would be better if he stayed away altogether unless he didn’t mind being treated like a subordinate employee of hers.
The event:
She will be EXCITED. May choose a venue other than a church; perhaps a hall, or have the wedding party fly to another country altogether. Will automatically draw all attention to her, more so than other brides; the Queen of Cups shimmers, the Queen of Wands glows.
Pictures, pictures, LOTS of pictures, darlings. This woman is always “on” and lives her life accordingly. Will be the first one on the dance floor at the reception, and will never be in one spot for very long.
The attire: What would this kind of woman wear?
Flashy woman. Will have taken her butt to the gym 4 months prior so that she can be in top physical shape. Of all the queens, this one is the most concerned with her appearance.
Her dress and makeup/hair will be the best money can buy – designer for the former and professionally done for the latter. Might not have a veil covering her face, I feel she’s got this “head on” attitude and never plays the demure role. Diamonds, not pearls for this lady.
She may choose to get married wearing a color other than the traditional white. If she does choose white, it may be the kind of dress that has a freakin’ 10-foot train. Whatever she selects, she will look like a million dollars.
Queen of Swords
Reaction:
Will not cry at any time, but will still be deeply moved and very happy. Her reaction to a surprise proposal might be more one of “Okay, why not?.” But more likely than not, she and her guy have discussed marriage in detail many times prior. Loves the ring, will not go out of her way to show it off, more likely to let you notice on your own, at which time she will be more than happy to answer all of your questions.
Planning the Wedding
Follows everything according to a carefully organized schedule, which she has written down in a planner or palm pilot. Will work with everyone involved to produce efficient results, but if you get on her wrong side prepare for a severe tongue-lashing; wedding planning is stressful and her patience may easily wear thin.
The event
Might be one of those brides that for some reason desires a winter/ fall wedding. She and her husband may write their own vows. This may not even be her first marriage. She will be COOL and COLLECTED.
The attire:What would this kind of woman wear?
May not even wear a dress as such. May choose a simple but elegant suit, and a hat with a veil. Does things with a simple, understated class. She may choose a dress that is more greyish-silver than white, and her make-up and jewellery will be tastefully done and kept to a minimum.
Queen of Pentacles
Reaction:
Is not likely to lose her head either. She and her sweetie will more than likely have just bought a house, gotten their debt under control; acquired those material things as a couple that speak of them having a future together.
Will be very happy; her family and friends will likely have been in on the whole thing from the start. Loves the ring, no matter the size, because her sweetie scrimped and saved for it, and it’s one she picked out herself.
Planning the Wedding
VERY concerned about cost, this lady. Of all the queens she is the most conscious of everyone else’s needs, and in her desire to keep everyone happy, may sometimes forget that this is HER big day. She can work with very little and produce amazing results. The planning process with this woman will be more fun than the others, as her team will consist of family and friends. Maybe an aunt whose cooking is fabulous offers to do the catering, her mom and her sisters/friends help her with the décor and choosing her dress etc. All in all, a lot will be done for very little money.
The Event:
She will be COMFORTABLE.
Will not be fussy and will likely be very small and private. This woman will want only close friends and family to share this day with her. May even get married in her own backyard. If not, she will choose a venue that is outdoors and naturally beautiful, with trees and flowers. The atmosphere will be a relaxed and loving one. This queen is likely to kick her shoes off when dancing after the ceremony.
The attire:What would this kind of woman wear?
Will be very no-frills. Her dress will be simple, yet beautiful, her hair flowing freely, will do her make-up herself. Will be more likely to use flowers as accessories rather than jewellery. She will be happy to simply BE.
Since I'm a woman this is WAY more detailed because I can imagine and relate to the queens much easier. Also I included little categories like attire, reaction etc because I feel that this helps explain the personalities of the queen in a clearer fashion. Sorry though. REAL long post.
What kind of wedding would these women want?
Queen of Cups
Reaction:
Is a crier. When her guy pops the question, Niagara Falls baby. Says “YES!” a million times. This is the woman who is likely to be “in love with love” and gets emotional, even if she knew this was coming. Hugs and kisses him to the point where he can’t breathe. May be close to hysterical for quite some time, so be careful about surprising her – not saying don’t do it, just be prepared when you do. Can’t stop looking at the ring…goes into a daze whenever she does.
Planning the wedding:
Will have worried herself silly and stressed herself out to the point where she develops a nervous twitch about this wedding. Even though she has a wedding planner, she may still obsess over things, and drive her hired help insane. She may be grateful when someone steps in and says, “don’t you worry, just leave it to me” but will nevertheless find herself worrying that the people to whom she has entrusted certain tasks will somehow not do them to her liking.
Everything has to be perfect.
The actual event
Will want the wedding that every little girl dreams about. Basically wants to literally be “queen for a day”; every woman’s fantasy. Wants everything right out of a fairytale , including a horse-drawn carriage and rose petals strewn before her.
She will be NERVOUS.
Will cry when the groom says his vows and while she says her own.
Will want the entire thing recorded so she can play it years later and relive the moment again and again. This will be a way for her to escape if she should need some kind of release, particularly if her relationship should head south. That way she can sit by herself, and create her own little world and cry over each little memory captured on tape. Even if things don’t go bad with her marriage I feel she may still do this from time to time.
The attire- What would this kind of woman wear?
I feel that she is the one who may stick closest to the traditional idea of weddings and may do the “something old, something new…” thing. I feel this woman goes for pearls (jewels from the sea) and/or fabric with a shimmery, gauzy effect that makes her look like she is floating, something out of a dream. I think cups have an ethereal quality to them and this would show up in their taste of clothing.
Queen of Wands
Reaction:
Is not really a crier, but may still get very emotional when her man proposes. Will especially love it if he goes all out before actually popping the question; will not mind at all if it’s in public (she’s not likely to get embarrassed by public displays, but if she’s not inclined to say yes, she probably will say “no” in front of everyone and embarrass HIM). Can’t stop looking at the ring (better be one helluva rock too)…shows it to everyone.
Planning the Wedding
Will want to have a direct hand in planning her own wedding. ..Believes in the saying “If you want a job done right, you gotta do it yourself.” Everything must be run by her first and she gets the final say. Will not be steamrolled over by pushy in-laws, girlfriends or relatives. Does things HER way…and her husband can help too of course…but only if he doesn’t get in her way. Actually it would be better if he stayed away altogether unless he didn’t mind being treated like a subordinate employee of hers.
The event:
She will be EXCITED. May choose a venue other than a church; perhaps a hall, or have the wedding party fly to another country altogether. Will automatically draw all attention to her, more so than other brides; the Queen of Cups shimmers, the Queen of Wands glows.
Pictures, pictures, LOTS of pictures, darlings. This woman is always “on” and lives her life accordingly. Will be the first one on the dance floor at the reception, and will never be in one spot for very long.
The attire: What would this kind of woman wear?
Flashy woman. Will have taken her butt to the gym 4 months prior so that she can be in top physical shape. Of all the queens, this one is the most concerned with her appearance.
Her dress and makeup/hair will be the best money can buy – designer for the former and professionally done for the latter. Might not have a veil covering her face, I feel she’s got this “head on” attitude and never plays the demure role. Diamonds, not pearls for this lady.
She may choose to get married wearing a color other than the traditional white. If she does choose white, it may be the kind of dress that has a freakin’ 10-foot train. Whatever she selects, she will look like a million dollars.
Queen of Swords
Reaction:
Will not cry at any time, but will still be deeply moved and very happy. Her reaction to a surprise proposal might be more one of “Okay, why not?.” But more likely than not, she and her guy have discussed marriage in detail many times prior. Loves the ring, will not go out of her way to show it off, more likely to let you notice on your own, at which time she will be more than happy to answer all of your questions.
Planning the Wedding
Follows everything according to a carefully organized schedule, which she has written down in a planner or palm pilot. Will work with everyone involved to produce efficient results, but if you get on her wrong side prepare for a severe tongue-lashing; wedding planning is stressful and her patience may easily wear thin.
The event
Might be one of those brides that for some reason desires a winter/ fall wedding. She and her husband may write their own vows. This may not even be her first marriage. She will be COOL and COLLECTED.
The attire:What would this kind of woman wear?
May not even wear a dress as such. May choose a simple but elegant suit, and a hat with a veil. Does things with a simple, understated class. She may choose a dress that is more greyish-silver than white, and her make-up and jewellery will be tastefully done and kept to a minimum.
Queen of Pentacles
Reaction:
Is not likely to lose her head either. She and her sweetie will more than likely have just bought a house, gotten their debt under control; acquired those material things as a couple that speak of them having a future together.
Will be very happy; her family and friends will likely have been in on the whole thing from the start. Loves the ring, no matter the size, because her sweetie scrimped and saved for it, and it’s one she picked out herself.
Planning the Wedding
VERY concerned about cost, this lady. Of all the queens she is the most conscious of everyone else’s needs, and in her desire to keep everyone happy, may sometimes forget that this is HER big day. She can work with very little and produce amazing results. The planning process with this woman will be more fun than the others, as her team will consist of family and friends. Maybe an aunt whose cooking is fabulous offers to do the catering, her mom and her sisters/friends help her with the décor and choosing her dress etc. All in all, a lot will be done for very little money.
The Event:
She will be COMFORTABLE.
Will not be fussy and will likely be very small and private. This woman will want only close friends and family to share this day with her. May even get married in her own backyard. If not, she will choose a venue that is outdoors and naturally beautiful, with trees and flowers. The atmosphere will be a relaxed and loving one. This queen is likely to kick her shoes off when dancing after the ceremony.
The attire:What would this kind of woman wear?
Will be very no-frills. Her dress will be simple, yet beautiful, her hair flowing freely, will do her make-up herself. Will be more likely to use flowers as accessories rather than jewellery. She will be happy to simply BE.
..do you know I totally saw the Queen of Swords doing the Justice of the Peace/ City Hall thing too? Don't know WHY I didn't say so! Thanks for putting that one out there!