Which Queen would be the ideal woman?
The Queen Pentacles, she deals with the world and the people in it best. Also, she knows how to enjoy herself.
The Queen Swords - she is fair, intelligent, has a wicked sense of humour and treats people according to their desserts.
The Queen Wands is self-motivated and ambitious, she will die rich (but with heaps of people resenting her overbearing style).
The Queen Cups isn't all that rational, isn't all that practical, and isn't all that driven. She feels things, but so do all the rest of them. Perhaps she has her adaptability and flexibility going for her.