12:4
using victorian romantic
querent’s question: what do I need to do in order to find a love relationship?
Cards that came out:
6 of Cups (Should not do)
King of Wands (characteristics of other person)
4 of Pents (should do)
For Charles:
I’m tempted to say to Charles not to dwell on the past(6 of cups-should not do), yet the 4 of pents(should do) looks as if it is doing just that—dwelling on some past. The pearls stand out to me, going from the King of Wands to the 4 of Pents. Within all 3, I would say that Charles may find love from his own inner circle. The same inner circle of friends that he and his wife socialized with. This “new” love, may, already, be a close friend(6 of Cups). Someone that Charles shares similar interests, that resonates with the way he approaches life---great passion, joy, gusto(king of wands). It may be someone who seems to have it all, or another widow(4 of pents). This person is financially secure, but may feel they are “missing” something(4 of pents).
Position-wise…
6 of Cups(should not do)…if you have over-looked someone as a potential partner, Charles, go back and take a second look. This potential love maybe someone you consider to be “like” a sister. Perhaps she was a close friend of your wife or an actual sister. So do not underestimate anyone in your inner circle.
King of Wands(characteristics of other person)…this person loves to socialize and may not get the chance to as often as they like. They love music, concerts in small, intimate settings…dinner theater. Very engaging personality, somewhat assertive and who knows themselves rather well.
4 of pents(should do)…I don’t think you have to do anything in particular to find your potential love relationship, Charles. I think it is a matter of fine-tuning your abilities to observe and listen. The pearls in the 4 of pents that the entity is holding in their hand, in the card, makes me think of all that is organic, and natural. This is the way she will reveal herself, as the moments do, slowly and naturally. Nothing needs to be forced or resisted.
For Tyler:
The descending numbers caught my eye, with the king in the middle…
You may have already attracted to you someone who is not only interested in you, but who wants a serious relationship. I don’t know if you have a study buddy, or lab partner, but be aware of how this person approaches you. Be cautious(6 of cups)because it could be a case of someone having a bit of a crush. If you do not welcome this person’s advances then be gentle in distancing yourself. You will have to be ultra-sensitive in dealing with this other person, for they are of a serious nature.
King of wands…this is how they see you. As someone popular, outgoing, well-rounded. Perhaps this is part of the attraction. They wish these traits for themselves. This king is very gracious, as are you, so allow that side of yourself to come out, for it will help you maneuver yourself from those who you wish to avert and to those you wish to attract.
4 of pents…even a non-serious relationship will still demand time and effort. Make sure you know who you are dealing with and that they know what your intentions are, try to avoid fallout.
For Hannah:
The kids in the 6 of cups caught my eye…
6 of cups(should not do) don’t rule-out single men or men who are soon-to-be-single with children.
King of Wands-he appears to be older, Hannah, or if young, very mature for his age. Actually there may be a substantial age-gap between the both of you.
4 of pents(should do)be patient, for as delightful as this man is, and he is, he’s got baggage. You’ll have to be as patient as you can. It is up to you, Hannah, you can also just walk away. But also know what you are walking away from and why. I think this potential love relationship will pose more questions for you and make you think more as to what it is you want and value in a partner, and what you are able to give.
For Isabel:
6 of Cups(should not do)…you’re looking for solutions where there are none, namely, outside of yourself. You lean on others to solve your problems or give you security.
King of Wands(characteristic of the other)you want a “daddy” figure for a husband. Someone who will make everything all right for you, someone you can be dependent on to carry you through whatever difficulties you have. If your husband isn’t fitting the bill on this thus far. Perhaps you are comparing him on your own father-figure image, one that may not even be real.
4 of Pents(should do)…you should take some time and think about the situation you are currently in. The issues you may have with your husband, how are they issues that you have contributed to, including the situation you are in. Ask yourself how you have contributed to your own unhappiness. I do not believe it is a matter of finding someone new to “understand” you, as much as you taking the time to understand yourself, your needs, your own values. This will demand time and introspection rather than a search on your part to find someone new to make everything ok.
Did you make any assumptions about age or gender since the “other person” was described as a King of Wands? If the King of Wands describes a young woman, what would she be like?
Not neceassily. For one of the querents, I saw it as an age-gap between them, either making the querent the younger or older of the two(Hannah). I also saw the king of wands as how the potential love interest would envision the querent(Tyler). I think either male or female are able to embody the characteristics of a king of wands…that being charming, engaging, out-going personality. For Isabel, I saw the King of Wands as her own anima/animus(whichever is the male version). For Charles, I saw the King as his own inner circle of friends.
12:6
Card 1 is purpose…5 of Swords(rx)
Card 2 is Issue…7 of Pents
Card 3 is feeling…2 of swords
Take the 3 cards you worked with in Activity 12:3. Turn them facedown, mix them up, amd reverse one of the three. Turns the cards faceup. Which card is reversed? The 5 of Swords.
What might it’s reversed meaning be?
That whatever conflicts there are, they have a starting point within me as oppose to outside of myself. How does this change the whole spread?
The purpose becomes 5 of Swords-rx, to go within for some answers. The issue becomes 7 of pents which could be about being more patient with myself, that Rome wasn’t built in a day. The feeling becomes 2 of swords, which is rather detached or dualistic. Putting it all together…It would be helpful to me, to become more aware and in the moment(2 of swords)when becoming emotional. The issue is connecting with a breath or with nature(7 of pents) to snap out of it. With the purpose to know those war-like factions within, and put them in their proper place.