He is, as aggravating as it sometimes to be his personal victim at times
Here's some other ideas...
I think of a person with a 7S as a positive trait as someone who is gifted with the awareness of how the real world functions, how people are often 'convinced' to do things against their interest. Again, Magician Light... you never hear them complain because they know how the game is played. They know how the system works and they know how corporate propaganda/greed is pushed on the employees to make them do more work for less money. They're generally "chill" to be around, very propaganda-adverse. They have a nice chuckle at other people's shenanigans and the more naive continuing to pull the lever to the "ladder of opportunity", despite warnings. I think that people who are in this category... they're not lightweights or pushovers and because they're highly aware of the agendas of other people, they too are often vocal about their own. This is why they're fun to be around... they can take a few jokes and give it back. They know what life is about and they don't take it
too seriously. That said, they use strategy to get what they want... so if this is a flirtatious relationship, then it's possible this is you "manipulating" the other person to get a certain type of reaction. They may very well love this because while you make it very apparent, it's still "unexpected" and mysterious in it's own way. They may not know your background in full, but they can sense you have a story and that you've learned a lot in your life to be fully confident in what you want out of life... and you're not about to sign up to jump on a bandwagon and work for someone elses interest. You want to know what is in it for you... these people are also really good at "hacking" relationship problems since they're very sensitive to other people's motives. They also do very well in management positions and other fast-paced environments, since they can handle the work-life balance better than most people. They're much more likely to take a vacation when they need it because they know at the end of the day, it's their time and energy that they choose to give... they don't give it up for free and they deserve the time off and they deserve to enjoy the "spoils" of their past victories... in other words, they want their time, relationships, work, career, energy to pay off... there's a strategy to it ALL.
The only downside you have to worry about is when men sometimes think this means you're more than a little jaded. They may think you're more open to certain romantic arrangements such as open relationships, are more willing to deal with blurrier boundaries. I think a good 7S tends to have very healthy boundaries though... because they are very aware of the possible bad intentions of others. Basically, "this chick is smart!"