Kloeyy
Lucky you! You have a chance to comprehend one of the biggest contemporary social problems.
Anyone I have met of great brilliance or even sensible practical application of right force and method has used defeat (either as a personal or observed experience) to create a new and successful approach.
Your destiny is not to be defeated but to understand the lesson of defeat which is to realise where success lies.
The current problem seems to be to keep repeating the same method that lead to defeat ... or just give up and say 'I failed'.
And you don't have to necessarily learn from your own mistakes ... observation of what the mistake is in another's approach or a variant system can help you develop the right one (that's why we give validity to the scientific method ... it outlines failures and successes - failed experiments can be just as important as successful ones
OMG.. now that perspective CLICKS. I would of never seen that. Hells bells that exactly what I do for a living is re-engineer processes that are failing to create success. I evaluate failed approaches and determine better courses of action.
THanks!