I think Grizabella makes an interesting point here about seeing through the illusion.
Following the lead of Waite-Smith, many decks now portray the Magician as an imposing and impressive figure, possessed of immense but seemingly effortless willpower and occult wisdom. He is a master of his own destiny, able to bend the very elements of existence to his command.
In older decks, however, he is nothing but a mountebank, a trickster, scraping together a living a fairs by scamming the unwary with three cups and a ball.
I love how the Magician archetype encompasses both of these images. Sometimes real-life people are the same. Perhaps the ex in question was originally idolised as the all-powerful magician able to do no wrong, when in reality he was much closer to the vagabond hustler. The outcome is about recognising the 'true' face of the magician one way or the other.