Welcome to the forum, dragonlight!
This is my first time replying. I don't agree with Johny VK. I have a boss. I get an Emperor for his feelings towards me all the time but he is so childish. He drove me crazy, when I told him that he is intimidating. he got obsessed with me. He would stand in his office and stare at me. Smile at me all the time- fake smiles. He would yell hello at me and smile. He was so out of control that I had to tell him not to talk to me anymore. He would embarrass me in front of other staff. He didn't care about me or my feelings at all. He only cared about him, he loved himself way too much. He wanted me to say and feel exactly the way he wanted me to feel. We are both married with children. He was much younger than me. I had to draw boundary for him. He was my boss, he made me feel so unsafe...If I was single and he showed interest in me, I think he would exhaust me.
I am confused. if Emperor is about boundaries, control and ruling. Why does this persons feelings always show up as emperor? Please help.
You don't think your own reactions show hints of him controlling you, creating uncomfortable boundaries (the awkward staring, passive aggressive facial expressions, etc) and more or less ruling over your place in the environment (his attempts to "sideline" you which you found embarrassing). You have validated his effect over you by your words alone. He "controlled" you--just maybe not the way an upright Emperor might.
Your counter response was a "pseudo" Emperor, that is you emboldened yourself in a defensive manner in order to instill a sense of independence in the place of work and in some ways in an effort "un-mask" this unruly figure. However, because of the "authority" he bears at your job, it's not like you could take him to task and verbally pistol whip into submission or something. It could've affected your employment status. This Emperor is the ill-dignified quality (typically rx/reversed).
Sometimes this happens with people with massive egos or people who were promoted far too soon before their more rougher feathers could be smoothed out. Sometimes people can't handle the stress of the job and so they take it out on others... comes from a sense of powerlessness, not feeling secure in their position or even knowing they're not even remotely fit for the role. They'll wear the suit, but they don't necessarily have the skills and knowledge yet that come with the uniform. (Think bad/incompetent police officer).
