SaintOfScreams
Awww! I love that story!
There is a little delusion in *lust* and in *attraction*. There shouldn't be in love - love is when you have gotten to know each other warts and all, probably over considerable time, and *still* find you want to be together.pasara said:there is a little delusion in all love, and I'm ok with that,
Grizabella said:Being honest, isn't a lot of romance just illusion and dreams? Say a man sets the scene for a woman for a night:
Candles, flowers, dinner for two, soft music.
The woman walks in and she thinks "Oh gosh, he's such a romantic. He wants to bond more deeply and maybe even pop the question. Or maybe he wants to bring up getting pregnant." You choose what she might be thinking.
The man, however, has set the scene because he knows it will push certain buttons with her and get her into a mushy, gushy mood where she'll not be mad that he just bought a new sports car. And of course, may get a nice evening of sex out of the effort, too. Especially if he goes along with one of the illusions she's got about why he might have set the romantic mood. If he doesn't pop the question or say "let's make a baby", he can sidestep it with enough finesse to let her think they're on the brink of a breakthrough toward her goals.
That's a really pragmatic example, but it makes the point that romance isn't always face forward, two people on the same train going to the same destination. So that would fall under the category of the Moon card, I think.
nisaba said:There is a little delusion in *lust* and in *attraction*. There shouldn't be in love - love is when you have gotten to know each other warts and all, probably over considerable time, and *still* find you want to be together.
I recently told a jetsetting friend whose long-term partner (they are not young) has issues with travel, that she should leave him at home. Her response was "But I rather like his company!"
After decades of his company.
*That* is what love is, not a surge of new desire.
And the Moon" Moonlight casts shadows, but they are not the same shadows that sunlight casts. When I'm driving home during the day, I can find my driveway easily. When I drive home at night I am much more tentative, because there is this illusory sense that is is a metre or two to one or the other side. Moonlight makes things look different to how they actually are, and you need to be aware of that or you'll wrap your metaphorical car around the Gatepost of Illusion. And unfortunately, two of those gateposts in romance are frequently "I can change!" or "He/she'll change for me if they really love me".
Also, beware of how Moonlight makes the same actions appear. Someone else I know asked the universe for a partner who had a whole list of qualifications, one of which was "generosity". She tells me "D." has all of those qualifications (I can't see the brain, myself). He certainly has the generosity - he spends all of his money, and some of hers, on treating anyone and everyone to whatever they want. Definitely not what she had in mind, but equally definitely what she asked for when her eyes were full of romantic Moonlight.