Ronia
Thank you!
Okay so lets go with will we agree that I should travel to Europe in the next 6 months?
Should I move back to my home country this summer? It's part of the vacation question but includes also money, so it basically covers it all in a way. Thank you!
Well we will definitely be moving in together in August because we already got the plane tickets and the apartment is already fully prepared. And yes I meant literally the moment I see him for the very first time we'll be heading off in a cab to check into our apartment
Would it be better if I changed the question to "Will our relationship improve for the better after we move in together?"
Oh yes, I agree. This is a journey for me to fulfill my dreams for my own personal development and an emotional one at that. I'm going there to finish up my bachelors and to also do my master's program. And I believe that going there will finally end the distance for me and my bf and give us a new start to our lives. It's also a geographically long journey for me (20+ hour flight!)The chart cast has Libra rising and was cast in the hour of Saturn. Both Venus and Saturn have dignity in Libra and Saturn is placed in Libra in the twelfth House. So I take the chart as radical.
You are signified by Venus, he is signified by Mars and the apartment (and by extension your new home) is signified by Saturn, ruler of the IC.
So let's run through you, him, the relationship and the apartment.
Venus is placed in Cancer, where it Triplicity rulership, and a mutual reception with Jupiter by Terms. In principle that gives is good essential dignity (though I have a further comment on that later). Venus is in the ninth House of long journeys (and dreams) which I think is a fair summary of your position - it's not so much that it is a geographically long journey, it's a journey to realise a dream and a personal development and emotional journey (Venus is ruled by the Moon).
Wow so very true! I have been wondering how people would think about us living together and also how my career would go after my master's program.The Moon rules the MC, so your prime concern is your outward, public role - your partnership is being declared to the world and in many ways you are identiying your new public role (and possibly a new career)
Oh yes settling down is something I've been thinking about all along. I would also love to start a family when I'm ready.Your other concerns are yourself (quite naturally) and probably settling down and perhaps starting a family (the other dignities in Cancer are held by Jupiter, which rules three other houses).
Moving in is never easy! I've heard of more couples breaking up after moving in together than working out ):Venus is in the Detriment of Saturn (the apartment and new home) and the Fall of Mars - which probably indicates that you are quite vulnerable taking this step, you are placing yourself in a position where you risk (however slightly) things going wrong. That's always the situation in entering a new relationship.
Hmm this I don't really get. Do you mean that moving in together with me is his main focus for his own sake? Or that he puts himself first, followed by the new home and then us? As far as I know he's doing this solely for my sake as he has to move away from his whole family and all his friends and it's not easy for him as he has lived in his state all his life.He is signified by Mars, placed in Gemini and very near the ninth cusp. Mars has little dignity in Gemini, but he is keener than you for this step. Indeed it's his prime focus (Gemini is on the cusp of the ninth). His other priorities in order are, the new home, you and him.
YES it is definitely not the ideal location. If I had a choice I wouldn't have chose to go to this state at all (buffalo, ny is pretty known to be a dead town sometimes). But my school is there so I don't have much of choice. We are planning on moving out the moment I'm done with my bachelors in 8 months time. I'm glad to know that I'll feel happy there.He is signified by
The apartment/new home is good (Saturn is in Exaltation) but I'm not sure it's in a very good position (Saturn in the twelfth) but the apartment will love you - Venus rules Libra, so even if it's not the best location I think you will feel happy there, certainly more than him, as Libra is the Detriment of Mars).
I've been feeling a little torn about the move lately. Only one month left to go and I realize how much I am leaving behind. My grandma is getting old and I'm worried that something might happen to her while I'm over there. She believes that I'm only going there for 8 months when in reality I'm planning to settle down over there. My parents and I are not very close so the only way we actually communicate and stuff is when we are in the house together. I don't know how the move is going to change things. And lastly, I'll be leaving my 5 hamsters behind and I'm so so torn about it. They will be dead when I get back as hamsters only have a lifespan of 2 years. My mom has made it very clear that she will have nothing to do with them, and she won't even pay for their bedding/food etc. My little sister is the only one who is going to take care of them and I worry so much for that because right now she can't even take care of them properly. I put her in charge of 2 cages as we share the responsibility and yet she can't even be bothered to do that job properly. Just yesterday I had to shower one of her hamsters and change everything because his sandbath was full of urine and he was covered in it for possible 2 days! I'm really worried that they would be neglected, hungry and sad after I leave.In terms of the relationship, there's no aspect between Venus and Mars, nor are there any mutual receptions, so of themselves they don't indicate that the move will improve or develop the relationship.
However there are other things to look at, the first being the role of the Moon as a co-significator. Unfortunately the Moon and Venus are in an almost exact opposition. The Moon can be seen either as your co-significator or the co-significator of the question. Here that could be interpreted as you being torn over the move (you are both for ad against it) or the relationship with him will not go very well following the move.
Phew I am so glad to see this, that's all I need to know. That if I persevere things will work out between us.Oppositions rarely produce a positive outcome - HOWEVER in this case the Moon and Venus are in mutual reception through ruler and triplicity (the Moon rules Cancer and Venus rules the Earth triplicity of which Capricorn is the cardinal sign) - So whichever it is here, you having real doubts or the relationship not going so well, I see that as something that will be overcome - it's short term, so if you weather that adjustment period then the relationship will remain in tact and may well develop.
Thank you so much for the advice! I will make sure we put fostering our feelings as a priority for this relationship and to remember that we'll go through the adjustment period, even if its hard.A couple of points to end with. The use of Venus to rule the Water triplicity is not universal, Lilly would have Mars ruling the Water triplicity both by day and night and the effect of that reading would be to strengthen your feelings for him as a priority and provide some more evidence of any adjustment period being one that you both will get through.
So very true, I'm starting to see how huge of a deal this is now! I'm trying to be more mentally prepared for it so that I wouldn't get overwhelmed when it happens.Finally Venus is under the beams and moving to combustion - this is an accidental debility and probably indicates that you've not been seeing things too clearly and perhaps now are beginning to realise that there's a real challenge here and if you're not careful, 'you' will be lost sight of - this could overwhelm you.
Thank you so much for doing this entire reading! You've given me the encouragement and hope that even if things get bad, if I try hard enough I can salvage it.So in summary
Yes this could work out and work out for a better relationship but it's not going to be easy by any means. You have to stay on top of it and you will have to work at it and try and overcome any difficulties that arise. So don't think it's going to be a fairy tale ending when you move in - if you do, it won't work. However invest the effort and it could well work out as you hope. It's up to you (and of course him).
Hmm this I don't really get. Do you mean that moving in together with me is his main focus for his own sake? Or that he puts himself first, followed by the new home and then us? As far as I know he's doing this solely for my sake as he has to move away from his whole family and all his friends and it's not easy for him as he has lived in his state all his life.
I see, thank you for the clarificationWell he actually puts you before himself and he's keen on the new arrangements (or the idea of the new arrangements) Like you he's venturing into the unknown here. I don't think this is going to be easy, but there's hope there that things will work out.
Also remember that it will take two for the relationship to work - the 'you' here applies to both of you but if you both work at it, then yes - you have a good chance of success.
[/quote]Oh I hope things work out with the hamsters - poor things. Have you thought of trying to find a new owner if your sister doesn't get her act together in time?
I seems to me your question is really:
Should I renew the relationship with T?
And if that's OK with you I'll read for that question
Yes thats fine by me!