MareSaturni
Yesterday i was talking to my mother...my father is having problems in his second marriage (he and mom are divorced). He and my mother are still friends so we are all worried about him and wondering what's going on in his relationship with his new wife. While we talked about the possibilities, i was playing with my new Original RW deck...and suddenly i felt like looking for the Lovers card. And it gave me some interesting thoughts...
Have you noticed that the Lovers stands both for love and free will/choices in the traditional meanings? I'm not trying to find all possible meanings for this cards, just analyzing those two: love and free will.
My father moved with this woman too early...i think their relationship didn't have strong roots yet. He made a choice that now he is starting to regret - and he says love made him do that. But no, he *knew* what could happened if he moved in with this woman (here, if you live more than two years together with another person in a relationship, materially speaking you are 'married') yet he chose to live with her nonetheless. It wasn't love's fault - it was his. His free will.
I like to see what the Lovers tells you...it tell you the choice is yours. In the Marseilles' Lovers you see one man choosing between two women...he may choose with his heart or with his brain but the choice will be always his. And the consequences of his choice will be his responsibility, no matter if he gets a Chariot or a Tower in the future.
In the RW Lovers, we see two people: Adam and Eve. Ah, the famous choice...many like to blame Eve/the Serpent for tempting the poor Adam but that's not what happened. When Adam ate the apple, he chose his free will - he knew what would happen, the dangers of eating the forbidden fruit. Yet he ate it. Now he has to accept the consequences of his actions and leave the Eden. What he gets back? The power to make his own decisions, but also the responsibility of dealing with the results.
I don't think the Lovers says you must choose heart above mind...for me, it implies that it is YOUR choice and YOUR responsibility. Even in love matters, that so many (like my father) like to blame a 'greater force' for their own bad choices. Then comes one of Lover's advice: choose well. Think.
If you decide to move in with another person after only two months dating, it's your choice. If you decide to cheat on your wife/husband, it's your choice. Your fault, your responsibility. Even drugs, addictions - the first times you try, it's you choosing to hand your free will on a silver plate.
I hope i wasn't too confusing here. The reason why i'm posting this is to share my thought with you and also for a personal thing: i never paid attention to the Lovers card. Never thought about it. And now i had the chance to find my meaning to it. I know some will disagree with me, it's okay as i'm not making a a rule or saying anything new actually. Just developing the Lover's apparent opposition free will/love (because many times Love is considered something 'above' the free will...something that leaves the person with no choice, which for me isn't true).
Well...that's it. The 'end' of my thought...hope some of you find it useful, as i did.
Thanks for reading!
Yuko
Have you noticed that the Lovers stands both for love and free will/choices in the traditional meanings? I'm not trying to find all possible meanings for this cards, just analyzing those two: love and free will.
My father moved with this woman too early...i think their relationship didn't have strong roots yet. He made a choice that now he is starting to regret - and he says love made him do that. But no, he *knew* what could happened if he moved in with this woman (here, if you live more than two years together with another person in a relationship, materially speaking you are 'married') yet he chose to live with her nonetheless. It wasn't love's fault - it was his. His free will.
I like to see what the Lovers tells you...it tell you the choice is yours. In the Marseilles' Lovers you see one man choosing between two women...he may choose with his heart or with his brain but the choice will be always his. And the consequences of his choice will be his responsibility, no matter if he gets a Chariot or a Tower in the future.
In the RW Lovers, we see two people: Adam and Eve. Ah, the famous choice...many like to blame Eve/the Serpent for tempting the poor Adam but that's not what happened. When Adam ate the apple, he chose his free will - he knew what would happen, the dangers of eating the forbidden fruit. Yet he ate it. Now he has to accept the consequences of his actions and leave the Eden. What he gets back? The power to make his own decisions, but also the responsibility of dealing with the results.
I don't think the Lovers says you must choose heart above mind...for me, it implies that it is YOUR choice and YOUR responsibility. Even in love matters, that so many (like my father) like to blame a 'greater force' for their own bad choices. Then comes one of Lover's advice: choose well. Think.
If you decide to move in with another person after only two months dating, it's your choice. If you decide to cheat on your wife/husband, it's your choice. Your fault, your responsibility. Even drugs, addictions - the first times you try, it's you choosing to hand your free will on a silver plate.
I hope i wasn't too confusing here. The reason why i'm posting this is to share my thought with you and also for a personal thing: i never paid attention to the Lovers card. Never thought about it. And now i had the chance to find my meaning to it. I know some will disagree with me, it's okay as i'm not making a a rule or saying anything new actually. Just developing the Lover's apparent opposition free will/love (because many times Love is considered something 'above' the free will...something that leaves the person with no choice, which for me isn't true).
Well...that's it. The 'end' of my thought...hope some of you find it useful, as i did.
Thanks for reading!
Yuko