Stregaverde
Stregaverde's Pesky Problem Person Spread
I created this spread a few weeks ago to help give my husband insight into a situation that he was being pushed into dealing with. It has a few third person questions in it, which I generally try to avoid, but it was uncannily dead-on in regards to the problem person in question. Feel free to monkey with it! I at first had 7 cards, with the 7th being Outcome and no formal Advice card. I've also thought to do it with 7th being Advice but leaving off the Outcome card, or you can use all 8, depending on your situation.
1*****4
***3***
2*****5
***6***
***7***
***8***
1. What motivates this person?
2. What lies beneath those motivations? What is hidden or subconscious?
3. What is the current situation with this person?
4. What can I do about this situation?
5. What do I need to be aware of?
6. What other influences can/do affect this situation?
7. Advice
8. Outcome
You might also want to add cards such as, "What is this person here to teach me?" and things of that nature. The situation for my hubby was more straightforward--he had to go clean up someone else's mess and deal with a difficult person doing it. But for a more involved relationship, I would enlarge it to:
**1*****4**
6****3****7
**2*****5**
*****8*****
*****9*****
****10*****
****11*****
1. What motivates this person?
2. What lies beneath those motivations?
3. What is the situation between us?
4. What are my motivations with this person?
5. What lies beneath my motivations?
6. What is this person here to teach me?
7.What can I do about this situation?
8. What do I need to watch out for?
9. What other influences can/do affect this situation?
10. Advice
11. Outcome
I created this spread a few weeks ago to help give my husband insight into a situation that he was being pushed into dealing with. It has a few third person questions in it, which I generally try to avoid, but it was uncannily dead-on in regards to the problem person in question. Feel free to monkey with it! I at first had 7 cards, with the 7th being Outcome and no formal Advice card. I've also thought to do it with 7th being Advice but leaving off the Outcome card, or you can use all 8, depending on your situation.
1*****4
***3***
2*****5
***6***
***7***
***8***
1. What motivates this person?
2. What lies beneath those motivations? What is hidden or subconscious?
3. What is the current situation with this person?
4. What can I do about this situation?
5. What do I need to be aware of?
6. What other influences can/do affect this situation?
7. Advice
8. Outcome
You might also want to add cards such as, "What is this person here to teach me?" and things of that nature. The situation for my hubby was more straightforward--he had to go clean up someone else's mess and deal with a difficult person doing it. But for a more involved relationship, I would enlarge it to:
**1*****4**
6****3****7
**2*****5**
*****8*****
*****9*****
****10*****
****11*****
1. What motivates this person?
2. What lies beneath those motivations?
3. What is the situation between us?
4. What are my motivations with this person?
5. What lies beneath my motivations?
6. What is this person here to teach me?
7.What can I do about this situation?
8. What do I need to watch out for?
9. What other influences can/do affect this situation?
10. Advice
11. Outcome