No, His significator in its own sign shows that his primary interest is himself. Indeed as Virgo is also Mercury's exaltation, his secondary interest is himself.
Yes i thought this was the case, with him being in virgo....even though yes i did also think that with me being a virgo and him being virgo his interest
mayhave been in me, but obviously not.
I've used Whole Sign Houses. The remaining essential dignities for Mercury's placement (Triplicity, Bounds, Face) are all ruled by Venus. In the chart Venus rules the eighth house (his wife's money and possessions - though I doubt they amount to much because Venus is in Detriment) and the third house. This is his ninth, which might be that he wants to travel but from what you've said it's more likely to mean his religious beliefs again these might not seem to be strong because of Venus being in Detriment and these dignities are less important than Rulership and exaltation. These may seem contradictory indicators but if part of his own self perception is of a good member of his community, then they may carry some weight in his perception of his own self interest.
So venus being the co-significator is his wife here then ? I was thinking she maybe being in the 7th house also, and yes he is staying for the material aspect, even though he does have businesses and money himself, but maybe it's tied up also with his wifes.
Yes id say 9th would be more about his religion....and no they are not that strong in my opinion, i mean he even went to do hajj a couple of weeks ago, which is supposed to be in their religion the most holiest place on the planet, but he was still txting me everyday.
Jupiter is in the eighth and it's combust a position of weakness in terms of action and ability to see things clearly, compared to Mercury's angular placement and heaps of essential dignity. He can act (but I don't think he likes the consequences of the actions that you want him to take). There's no dignity of Mercury here, which I might have expected. There are dignities of Venus and Saturn - which looks like the eighth house signification. That seems odd at firs sight because it corresponds to his wife's income and possessions but it might well be you see them in a different way to him. To you they might not be an obstacle to love or indeed a life together and if they are indeed not much of value, you might feel that he's more able to leave her for you, or it might be that you just don't see things clearly.
I used the Regiomontanus, and jupiter is in 7th in my chart ? He can act, he's just choosing not to at this point.
Your co-significator is the Moon. It's just past the sextile to Mercury and it's in its own house of Cancer and the fifth of the chart. This is a strong position. There are even two dignities of Mercury (Bounds and Face) so you have some feelings for him. Frawley sees the Moon as giving some indication to your heart in a relationship question, so there does appear to be some love towards him. However your main concern is children (and pregnancy). You've indicated you have a child already, they are your first priority, your own self comes next, as Cancer is the exaltation of Jupiter.
Yes i was presuming moon being in the 5th was my (stupid) feelings i unfortunately have for him. I do have a child already yes, and would like another one. No contraception is being used with him, as he said he wants one with me. God knows how this would work out if this did ever happen....maybe thats why its not, at least someone up there is looking out for me.
Now there's going to be a clear difference between my houses and yours. If you've used Placidus or Regiomontanus, Mercury is in the sixth and Jupiter, is in the seventh along with Venus. That doesn't change his priorities, though it does shift his Venus dignities into being in the Seventh - his home. You could argue that the sixth shows that he can't act easily and is at the Mercy of others. But Mercury is in it's own sign. He can act, though perhaps not effectively. The question though is about his feelings and the shift in houses doesn't alter those.
Yes i did just mention that jupiter is in the 7th and also mercury is in the 6th, when you say that this does shift his venus dignities into being in the 7th ? Is this positive or negative ?
Jupiter transformed to the seventh is still combust. There's still the matter of not being able to see things clearly. Jupiter isn't in the same sign as the Descendant, so any feelings you have are not anywhere near as strong as they would be if Jupiter was in Virgo. You are not giving yourself to him on his territory.
Yes ive been learning all about combust today, and i was either thinking its me being hidden away by the sun, or even like you say makes sense of me not being able to see clearly, from being blinded by the sun.
Going on my feelings, i think im confused which is why im maybe not giving my all, also probably because of the situation im holding back as much as i can.
Frawley would say that Venus signifies your 'animal passion' in this chart. Venus in Detriment might initially seem all that strong at all. However Venus is in the sign of Mars, so perhaps the passion is there but helps to obscure your view of the situation, or the passion is misplaced. or simply that it's enjoying the situation, no matter what the reality.
Maybe it is just the passion that is causing me to think i feel something for him, maybe its not even real love. I wouldn't say im really enjoying the situation of being hid away and only let out on his terms when he can talk/see me etc. Obviously this is something i have to put up with as i know about his situation buyt it can be very frustrating at times.
Whatever the situation is with your feelings, his feelings are not particularly strong for you, from this chart, whatever the house system. That might be an acceptable situation for you, and the relationship may give you things that you need. But as long as you are aware that his feelings might not be as strong as he suggests, you can still come to terms with and even enjoy the situation.
The reason why i did a chart in the 1st place, was because he's just recently been saying he loves me in txts, and getting jealous in regards to my ex popping round to see me or if ive been speaking to another guy etc....maybe this is his scorpio traits coming through here.
Maybe he's not really sure himself about if he feels anything, but i don't like how he's been saying he loves me, if he doesn't even mean it.
He does help me out with stuff, like my son needed a new bike so he bought him one, he takes us out and randomly buys things for my son when he comes, so as im a single parent, he does help in a way.
So i think now i'm just going to switch my feelings off, and just see him still, but not expect anything to develop from it and just carry on seeing him until it either dwindles out or i meet someone proper......and i know when that time comes, he is not going to like it, and may find it hard to fully let go.
What mess have i got myself into again.
