I think the rules and regulations are in place for a reason.
The Moderators cannot check on every thread nor should they have to be following up on ATers left, right, and center for feedback. There is a lot of work that goes on behind the scenes and like anyone else - they have a life outside of AT.
It is a community not a prison system. So, as a community we should be working together where possible. It would probably help them out somewhat as well. And that is why they appreciate being told about issues and what have you within reason. Some Moderators, like most, have their own personalities and thresholds of tolerance so be mindful as they have good and bad days too.
If you are not happy with the "lack of feedback" or "waffling on" - then say so. Even better - at the very start set your boundaries and for clarity give a run down of what you expect and maybe provide an example.
I AGREE some do not learn from the "exchanges" because some stay in there for years without seeming to evolve. However, it would likely die in there if all those ATers were moved on after a certain amount of time. That is the true kicker! However, it does not lessen the fact that proper feedback should be given so that everyone benefits including the "lurkers".
DND