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I did a reading for someone a couple days ago who was troubled over what their partner wasn't telling them - more about the 'why aren't they being upfront about this' than anything.
The spread sort of came up on the fly after discussion over whether or not it was a deliberate withholding of information or something else, and I can't really credit this with myself - the seeker spelled out pretty clearly what he wanted to know and we just balanced it out to get a whole picture.
Here's the final spread, and he says it gave him a lot of clarity about what to discuss with his partner as well as what to sort out for himself. A is the seeker and B is the other person involved. (And I think this would be a very good spread for them both to be there for as it opens up all sorts of discussion potential)
2......3
....1...
4......5
1. The subject - what is the situation that needs to be sorted out.
2. That A and B both already know and acknowledge about the situation.
3. What A knows and acknowledges, but B doesn't.
4. What B knows and acknowledges, but A doesn't.
5. What neither A or B knows or acknowledges but is a factor in the situation.
This spread doesn't offer a solution or specific plan of action - what it does do is help see where the blind spots are and understand why the other may be behaving in ways that don't make sense (because they don't see what's perfectly clear to you, or because they insist on action based on something you don't acknowledge). I like that it keeps responsibility on both people rather than just one.
Let me know what you think? I thought about adding a guidance card, but I didn't like disrupting the symmetry! The guidance to me seems to be 'understand and communicate about this stuff' but maybe that's my own prejudice talking.
The spread sort of came up on the fly after discussion over whether or not it was a deliberate withholding of information or something else, and I can't really credit this with myself - the seeker spelled out pretty clearly what he wanted to know and we just balanced it out to get a whole picture.
Here's the final spread, and he says it gave him a lot of clarity about what to discuss with his partner as well as what to sort out for himself. A is the seeker and B is the other person involved. (And I think this would be a very good spread for them both to be there for as it opens up all sorts of discussion potential)
2......3
....1...
4......5
1. The subject - what is the situation that needs to be sorted out.
2. That A and B both already know and acknowledge about the situation.
3. What A knows and acknowledges, but B doesn't.
4. What B knows and acknowledges, but A doesn't.
5. What neither A or B knows or acknowledges but is a factor in the situation.
This spread doesn't offer a solution or specific plan of action - what it does do is help see where the blind spots are and understand why the other may be behaving in ways that don't make sense (because they don't see what's perfectly clear to you, or because they insist on action based on something you don't acknowledge). I like that it keeps responsibility on both people rather than just one.
Let me know what you think? I thought about adding a guidance card, but I didn't like disrupting the symmetry! The guidance to me seems to be 'understand and communicate about this stuff' but maybe that's my own prejudice talking.