At the risk of sounding like a wet blanket, I'm going to respectfully disagree with this statement:
I also think Unicorn would have a legitimate reason for asking the Tarot about her partner’s sexuality.
As I read the portion of Unicorn's post, as quoted by Moongold, Unicorn was asking about the sexual orientation of an
ex-boyfriend - and said she had always wondered. I find reading cards about the matter objectionable on two levels.
First, the time to have made an inquiry about that was while the two were sexual partners - not after the fact. Certainly, when one is engaged in an intimate, sexual relationship with another person, there is some information one is entitled to - and if a candid discussion is not forthcoming when the partner is asked, that would be a big red flag for me to make a hasty exit.
Second, if she just
had to know afterward, the appropriate thing to do would be, as other posters have pointed out, to just ask. Otherwise, I view a reading about it in the same manner as I do those that various people have discussed in other threads, the kind that ask about another person (usually a former romantic partner in a new relationship), "What does s/he see in her/him (the new partner)?" If it felt a little too nosey to ask something like that outright, why does reading cards seem any better?
Although I love tarot myself, I hate to see instances where people want to substitute a reading - particularly one as highly emotionally charged as these types of readings are - for plain old communication between people.
And I completely agree with Moongold when she says, "I have never seen a thread here asking what cards you would use to discern heterosexuality, for example. Nor have I ever seen a question about cards which could discern Catholicism or Christian fundamentalism. I imagine there might be some concern expressed if there were such threads."
Maybe it's because I've spent most of my life being "different" from other people and have always tried to be very up front and honest in answering questions, but when I saw this thread this morning, it really set my teeth on edge. I'm sure a lot of my frustration with the topic had to do with a relationship I recently ended with a man who, despite my candor with him on just about every subject imaginable, spied on me electronically. I think, however, that the majority of my discomfort is because I view the tarot as a tool for
self-discovery, whether the Seeker is the reader or is reading for someone else at their request and with their knowledge.