Hmm...
I kept out of these issues after one of my posts was also misinterpreted a long time ago. I was said to be 'harsh'.
I wrote down my code of ethics and I keep to it. Not on a case by case basis. Sorry. I don't want to slip into the grey area's and there are enough alternatives that I do accept. Namely, rule 2.
1) I do not read about other people without permission. This includes Relationship Readings. If you want one, then it's going to be focussed on you. Since partners mirror each other, (one becomes independent, the other becomes needy), these are still very worthwhile Readings. The focus is always on the Querent.
In select cases, rule 2 counts.
2) I'm ok with doing Readings that focus on the Querent, and what they need to know about somebody else. As in: "What do *I* need to know about person X".
Why I have these rules? Simple. I heard these reasons that I don't agree with:
"It's all about intent... If you have good intent, nothing can go wrong"
Sorry. But the best intentions can be the road to hell. We don't know what is the best for another person. And we can be open to receiving information we do not know how to deal with. (how an operation is going to be for example). People's curiousity is bigger then their wisdom.
"It depends on what you do with the information"
Surely it does. But if you do Readings in which the intent is not to receive 'open' information but you ask: "What is this persons' plan with the Group" then, there is a huge huge chance of misinterpretation, because your intent is already finding out something bad/negative.
"You can't do Readings that don't touch more then one person life"
True in a way. We are all connected to others. But surely there is a HUGE difference between focusing on one person, and focusing on a group or more. One Reading will give radical different information then another.
"It's the only way I can know what is on X's mind"
This one I heard a lot. Be it with grandchildren, family, friends. First of all, this person is abnormally closed, else you wouldn't have to do a Reading on them. Don't you think it's better in the long run to ACTUALLY talk to this person about this behaviour, and confront them again and again... Till they will see what they are causing? Instead of opting on the 'easy' way out, trying to find out information behind their back...
"Tarot Readings give information in a way that is different then getting any information anywhere else"
So... it's this little special way, so that way it doesn't fall under 'normal' rules. It doesn't fall under 'spying' because it's different... A smart way of getting what you want. I do not believe this personally. I believe that Reading on others without permission is like tapping their phone, spying, being under their window etc. etc. This is my Belief. It doesn't have to be yours.
Yes. I'm against Reading on somebody without permission, and in only a few exceptions I will allow it, then following rule 2. Asking for open information, and then you will see what your receive. I only do this when the Querent can explain to me very well, why this wish this open information.
I do believe that Tarot Readings come from the Divine, but God gave us free will, and therefore we are capable of making wrong decisions...
As a clairvoyant/medium I do have problems with the fact that I 'tune' into people without wanting too. I do nothing with this information. I'm practising every day to keep this under control. I do not wish to see people's aura's without permission, to get visions, energy Readings or anything else that I can do. The problem is that I'm incredibly sensitive. I still agonise about it every day.
Kahlie