I'm sorry, Beancrew, I have to disagree with you in very strong terms here. Yes, as adults, we need to live authentic lives. But we're talking about someone who is dependent on others, and who could come to serious harm without their support.
I also disagree with the notion that being your authentic self means disregarding the views and needs of others. We are all connected. Individualism keeps us isolated and vulnerable. Being authentic means recognizing that we are not islands; we need each other. And this means that we need to consider the feelings and opinions of others in the choices we make.
Being part of society isn't just about fear and hatred. It's about understanding and acceptance. Sometimes people make poor choices and desire inappropriate things, and we need to help each other identify appropriate boundaries.
Parents are responsible for their child's well being, and most of us want the best for our children. We make the choices we do out of concern for them and from the basis of often long experience.
When you live under someone's roof, you live by their rules, so long as those rules are fair and reasonable (even if you disagree with some of them).
Strangers on the internet should not be trying to drive a wedge between parent and child.
I didn't drive the wedge, her father did when he decided to restrict who she was rather than to allow her to flourish.
Parents are just parrots of their parents, who parrot their parents, and so on down the line. That has lead to a society filled with war, violence, hatred, and fear as each generation passes down thinking that is out of alignment. Just because a parent has "experience" in a corrupted world, that does not mean they have more wisdom than you. People are waking up fast, and are gaining wisdom in days that their parents (especially the ones locked into dogmas) could never acquire.
What do you constitute as "fair" when living under someone else's roof? If you look at Tarot as a hobby, like stamp collecting, and a parent were to tell you that you cannot collect stamps because their parent once told them that stamp collecting was a vice of the devil would you say that their rule is fair and must be followed? If stamp collecting makes you feel free and alive and sets you on a path towards your higher self, then what right does that parent have to pass on their ill-found believes in an attempt to stifle who you are?
No one is saying that she should spit in the face of her father. She loves him and I'm sure she wishes things could be harmonious between him, but the poisoned beliefs that have been passed down through the ages is preventing that. The only way to stop this chain of negativity is to break it yourself. You have the power to do that, but you have to live an authentic life. If she can live freely, and SHOW her father the love and happiness that she has found from living her authentic life, then maybe he might even see the light himself. But you can't do that if you allow him to pass on that negative energy to you out of some misaligned form of "respect" You respect your parents more by being true to yourself and becoming a beacon of light for others.
I know I sound very immature. And it doesn't help I am living with my Dad atm.
