Emma313
Well, that's the 6/Cups, right? Nostalgia, to some extent, but also "known joy." I don't think it's any more pointless than casting our minds back to happy moments in childhood, or the times we spend with friends during our teen years ("Remember that one evening we drove around town till dawn, talking and listening to music? That was the best!").
I mean, happy memories are happy memories; when we're not feeling so good, they can make us smile and feel better. That doesn't seem pointless to me. Nor counterproductive unless (1) they end up making you feel sad and miserable because you're not with that person any more, or (2), unless you are comparing a current relationship to this old one; there's no way any current relationship is going to live up to memories you've polished and elevated.
I guess what I'm saying is, so long as this old relationship doesn't become an unhealthy obsession—either to hurt yourself or hurt another—then such sweet memories are like any other sweet memories. Their point is to make you smile and give you joy when you most need it—and to remind you that you have been loved and can be loved. That's a very important point, don't you think?
Yes thirteen you have an excellent point there...but if it ended badly those lovely moments are muted/kind of tainted/not remembered for how lovely they were...guess its all about moving on, howver long it takes sometimes