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SunChariot said:meginmd, you are using the Law of Attraction. We cannot not use it. It is a law of how the universe and life work. It doesn't go away just because you don't think of it.
Exactly! It's not a law like 'don't run red lights' - it's a Law, like the Law of Gravity.
It can certainly be used consciously to gain more control over your own life (and really - isn't it handy to know that when you let go of something it will fall to the floor and not spin off in some random direction?), but even if it you don't understand it, or ever try to use it consciously, it still operates in your life.
All the negative comments.. all the beliefs that it is somehow your destiny to be alone.. even the (odd, in my own philosophy) view that who you are today is set in stone and is who you will be a year from now or a decade from now... these are the things you are attracting to yourself.
If you set your truth as "I will be alone" - you will be alone because those who might want to be there with you will be turned away.
If you set your truth as "no one can love me unless I change everything about myself" you will attract people to you who do not see the loveable perfection of who YOU are... and you won't let those who could appreciate it in close enough to find it.
If you set your truth as "they have to love everything about who I am now because I am not going to change"... you are attracting a future of stagnation and lack of growth, and honestly that sounds like hell to me.
Back to that Hanged man and repeating myself... sacrifice the security blankets of these beliefs. Let yourself strip down to the skin without all these unhelpful attitudes (and I think that is hard because they *have* been helpful to you in avoiding the risk of living a fearless intimate life) and just see what's what without their filters. Try replacing them with positive affirmations instead and see what comes to you.
You will be ammmaaaaaaazeeeeeed.