I don't think it is the "not schmoozing the forum". I am still supporting two delayed projects that have no presence here at all (or not that I have seen) - and I have no - irritations, even, with them. They send out regular kickstarter updates saying what has happened (and that takes the same time as making an FB post, as putting the info on kickstarter sends it automatically to every last backer !)
I think it is - for instance - this post saying he was waiting to raise money to pay for the postage was NOT sent out as a kickstarter update. It should have been. There are more people than me who support kickstarter and don't have a facebook presence. So I and they only get info from this thread. When my deck is held up - I have no idea why. That is what I mind. If he had posted that he had no money to mail them as an update to all his frustrated backers, I'd be totally fine with it up to a point - though like starlight, if given the option, I would happily send him the postage money. I'm not so keen to do it at random, in case it was used to send out someone else's instead. THAT is how disorganised it feels. If he'd even send out a kickstarter update saying anyone who will send me - say - $7 - can have their deck right now, I would do, as then it would feel that that might get ME my deck !
It's the lack of information anywhere but facebook, for me.