Lee
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Lee, Lenormand Co-Moderator
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Lee, Lenormand Co-Moderator
I feel there is a huge difference between telling people what they must do, and suggesting what they could do. Personal responsibility comes into play when they decide whether or not to act on that advice.
When I go for a reading it is because I am struggling to find answers for myself and I need some help. I don't want to just be told what is going on because I already know, I want some advice regarding what I can do about it.
I don't see it as control, I see it as helping someone to find the way. It's like when someone asks for directions in the street, they want something along the lines of "take the first turning on the right and then turn left by the pub", they probably don't want to be advised they need to find their own way because the person they are asking doesn't want to control them.
Anyone who tells people what to do is not encouraging personal responsibility, they are encouraging the opposite. Evidently those who despise this concept, do so because they specialize in controlling others.
In addition, if you tell someone what to do, you are partially responsible for the outcome. If it goes badly, it is partially on your shoulders.
Folks this is not a new concept i am presenting, and it is widely accepted in groups where personal responsibility is not only encouraged it is required. However, since some of you folks like telling your clients, friends, partners, etc., what to do, I will step off, and take the show somewhere else.
Anyone who tells people what to do is not encouraging personal responsibility, they are encouraging the opposite. Evidently those who despise this concept, do so because they specialize in controlling others.
In addition, if you tell someone what to do, you are partially responsible for the outcome. If it goes badly, it is partially on your shoulders.
Folks this is not a new concept i am presenting, and it is widely accepted in groups where personal responsibility is not only encouraged it is required. However, since some of you folks like telling your clients, friends, partners, etc., what to do, I will step off, and take the show somewhere else.
If a client asks a specific question such as, "Is my husband cheating?" Is it okay to tell her yes your husband is cheating, if the cards indicate so?
How then is it any different to ask, "Should I enroll my child in a private school or public school?" and the cards say the child is better off in public school?
The cards give direction in answering the clients questions. I personally do not see how a reader in this case would be telling a client what to do. The answer didn't come from me.
Am I missing something here?
I think it is better tell them what the cards suggest. They have to decide how they want to interpret
that information and what choices they make. It's ultimately their decision on what they do with the information
I always tell them to do more research, see what else they can find out before making a decision.
Not to only use the information in my reading to decide.
Yes. This is one important reason why I prefer to have them involved in shuffling the cards: I can make it clear that they're active participants in the reading, not just passive bystanders. I like them to get the idea they're "imprinting" the deck with their consciousness. So the suggestions that come out of the reading can be considered as much a form of "auto-suggestion" as they are external advice, or maybe more so. In essence, the cards are "reading them," and i'm simply the translator. If they were still paying me (I'm just an avid hobbyist these days), what they would be buying is help to "interpret themselves to themselves" (for lack of a more elegant phrase). I've had a lot of exposure to the "we create our own reality through our choices" school of mysticism over the years, and tarot in this sense opens a window into the "self-realization" process, where the formative basis (aka "the answer") for every latent or emerging development can be tapped and deciphered via the reading.