skinviolet
hi!!
if anyone's seen previous posts of mine on this thread, then you know i have a little issues. by issues i mean depression, anxiety and recently diagnosed OCD. i know we talk about this a lot, about how our emotions have an impact whatsoever on the cards. the responses are many but it's either 'the cards are just cards, what happens is that you read them wrong when you're in a bad state' or 'yes, we can subconsciously pull the cards we fear or have said fears reflected back at us because that's what's happening at the moment of the reading'.
i agree with them both, actually, much more with the second option because it's happened too many times to me to be a coincidence. i do a reading, think about what i //don't// want to see and pull that exact card or have all my fears just punch me in the face by the cards.
but, like i said, it's happened a lot and now i have no idea if i can trust my own readings. sometimes i get everything right. but most times everything is so wrong, so out of place. sometimes (and this is an example) i ask if a certain someone will answer my message, and sometimes i get no after no only to have that someone answer me. sometimes i get a yes right away and it happens the way the spread showed me. very rarely i get a no that actually means no. sometimes i get a no, they won't answer me during the day or right now, it'll take a little while and so.
when it comes to other things or other people, i can see things very clearly. i thought i was a little rusty but i read for my mother the other day and i was spot on! read for a friend, turned out great. but i can't read for myself. i know, i know, this is no big news here. but it's just...i'm never right about anything when i read for myself, except petty things like 'will they answer me?' and even then i mess up. i don't know, i think i'm coming on too strong, too charged, but then again today i read about something and i was really emotional and i managed to get everything right, or at least the gist of it. the reading made sense.
so i don't know. i'm usually very wrong when i do readings about my love life and i ask about him, you know. when other people do it for me, i can see clearly how he feels. things are good! and these good things actually happen!!! yay and all that!!
when i read about it myself---i get so scared. but i mean, really really really scared. i shuffle the cards thinking that no, it can't be right, he can't be in love with me, oh i know what's going to come up, i know all the cards that are going to come up and surprise, there they are in the spread. i can never do a reading about him with a clear mind, i can never interpret things right, i can't even breathe when i'm doing a reading about him. i actually noticed that i hold my breath when drawing the cards on a question about him.
and the problem is: i have ocd. put that with my anxiety and you get a constant need for reassurence. so if i have a lovely reading done by a friend or even my mom, i don't let it slide. because i need to be sure. so i read for myself and that's a disaster and i'm left not knowing what to believe.
i'm either too close (well i am, i know) or too naive and unprofessional to keepa clear and steady mind while reading about him myself. i don't want to pull away from the cards, even though i know it'd be good for me and my ocd. i've created a sort of ritual with the cards that just fuels all the wrong things.
if anyone's been through something at least a little bit familiar, please, please, a little advice?? what should i do?
sometimes i cleanse the cards, and that gives me a false sense of 'oh, now everything's fresh and clean', and i try to meditate, but ironically enough that makes it worse. i meditate and i think 'now it has to work' and well, it doesn't. i don't feel grounded, i just feel like i'm a floating mess looking at pretty pictures on cards that make no sense to me when they should.
if anyone's seen previous posts of mine on this thread, then you know i have a little issues. by issues i mean depression, anxiety and recently diagnosed OCD. i know we talk about this a lot, about how our emotions have an impact whatsoever on the cards. the responses are many but it's either 'the cards are just cards, what happens is that you read them wrong when you're in a bad state' or 'yes, we can subconsciously pull the cards we fear or have said fears reflected back at us because that's what's happening at the moment of the reading'.
i agree with them both, actually, much more with the second option because it's happened too many times to me to be a coincidence. i do a reading, think about what i //don't// want to see and pull that exact card or have all my fears just punch me in the face by the cards.
but, like i said, it's happened a lot and now i have no idea if i can trust my own readings. sometimes i get everything right. but most times everything is so wrong, so out of place. sometimes (and this is an example) i ask if a certain someone will answer my message, and sometimes i get no after no only to have that someone answer me. sometimes i get a yes right away and it happens the way the spread showed me. very rarely i get a no that actually means no. sometimes i get a no, they won't answer me during the day or right now, it'll take a little while and so.
when it comes to other things or other people, i can see things very clearly. i thought i was a little rusty but i read for my mother the other day and i was spot on! read for a friend, turned out great. but i can't read for myself. i know, i know, this is no big news here. but it's just...i'm never right about anything when i read for myself, except petty things like 'will they answer me?' and even then i mess up. i don't know, i think i'm coming on too strong, too charged, but then again today i read about something and i was really emotional and i managed to get everything right, or at least the gist of it. the reading made sense.
so i don't know. i'm usually very wrong when i do readings about my love life and i ask about him, you know. when other people do it for me, i can see clearly how he feels. things are good! and these good things actually happen!!! yay and all that!!
when i read about it myself---i get so scared. but i mean, really really really scared. i shuffle the cards thinking that no, it can't be right, he can't be in love with me, oh i know what's going to come up, i know all the cards that are going to come up and surprise, there they are in the spread. i can never do a reading about him with a clear mind, i can never interpret things right, i can't even breathe when i'm doing a reading about him. i actually noticed that i hold my breath when drawing the cards on a question about him.
and the problem is: i have ocd. put that with my anxiety and you get a constant need for reassurence. so if i have a lovely reading done by a friend or even my mom, i don't let it slide. because i need to be sure. so i read for myself and that's a disaster and i'm left not knowing what to believe.
i'm either too close (well i am, i know) or too naive and unprofessional to keepa clear and steady mind while reading about him myself. i don't want to pull away from the cards, even though i know it'd be good for me and my ocd. i've created a sort of ritual with the cards that just fuels all the wrong things.
if anyone's been through something at least a little bit familiar, please, please, a little advice?? what should i do?
sometimes i cleanse the cards, and that gives me a false sense of 'oh, now everything's fresh and clean', and i try to meditate, but ironically enough that makes it worse. i meditate and i think 'now it has to work' and well, it doesn't. i don't feel grounded, i just feel like i'm a floating mess looking at pretty pictures on cards that make no sense to me when they should.