rwcarter
Glass Owl posted the following in the Collaborative Spread Creation Suggestion thread.
Some suggested positions (many borrowed from/inspired by Stregaverde's Problem Person Spread):
Rodney
Glass Owl said:I could really use a spread for a situation that I am facing and I suspect that others may benefit from it too. I thought about Stregaverde's Pesky Problem Person Spread but it doesn't really zero in on what I am looking for. I thought I should post a request here so I can get some help.
I am in need of a spread that will help me explore why I have such a strong negative reaction to a particular person and how I can deal with it.
I'm a pretty easy person to get along with and and yes there are times when I don't get along with someone or what not but this is different.
I get really bad vibes when I am around this person. I actually feel sick to my stomach, my skin crawls, I'm shaky. I feel very anxious, hostile, as if she is attacking me when she is just around the room doing nothing. I would like to better understand why this is happening, why I dislike her so, and what I can do to protect myself or work through it because it is affecting my job. I feel this need to keep an eye on her for some reason.
This has been the case since I first met her and it only has gotten worse over the years. Plus, it doesn't help that she is an unpleasant, cold person (and isn't liked by others either) and displays some sociopathic qualities.
Some suggested positions (many borrowed from/inspired by Stregaverde's Problem Person Spread):
- What motivates the other person in general?
- The specific intentions the other person has towards the Querent.
- What is the dynamic between the Querent and other person?
- What it is about the other person that causes the negative reaction from/in the Querent?
- What can the Querent learn from their reaction to the other person?
- How can the Querent learn to accept the other person for who they are? (accepting is not approval)
- What can the Querent do to make the situation better for him/herself?
Rodney