cup 1/3 empty rotten luck - hexed????

[Luna's Crone]

my first husband was a paranoid skizo with a sex disorde3r. he3 was obse3ssed with stalking all the3 guys he thought i e3ve3r knew. (stitches, heavilly wrappe3d middle finger, sorry about the 3s) Of course i didn't know most of them. he loved to trap me and scare me ect. Now here's the3 part that's important, since i me3t him, i have3 had rotten luck, not re3ally bad luck. that include's life3 in ge3ne3ral my he3alth e3ct. Never3 wanted kids, was on birth control and had thre3e3. don't ge3t me wrong, love my kids, I kne3w about climate change polution and all that back in the early 70's and decided i did not want kids.

we both went to class to learn to me3ditate. I couldn't meditate when he was around because i would ge3t like night te3rrors. whe3n he3 would meditat3e, the3 dogs would growl at th3e closed bedroom door, my rats would hide. and th3e kids wante3d outside.

I lived in he3ll for about 18 years. and one day he3 tried to kill me3 ande th3e police came and thru both him and my oldest out of the3 town and was finally rid of him. long story about my dtr.

but even tho he gone my rotte3n luck stuck with me3. especially with my physical health. NO surge3ry has eve3r gone right. They took my pain me3dicine away, cuz i didn't use enough. I live in a sick house still seeping formaldehyde . spend days and weeks on plans to do some3thing and the3y all turn out trips from he3ll. there are tons more3.

i feel like i caught a gre3mlin from him. When he3 was growing up, his house had to exorcised twice by priest.

now does anyone have any ideas on how i might get rid of this luck business. its really become scary and i am 64 now. 2 surgeons ruined my right e3ye3, my back surgery le3ft me3 with chronic bursitis on both sides of my hips thighs and groins, and things kee3p going that way. It took my husband (not the othe3r one3)almost 16 years to re3alize how unusual things work out for me. And then he asked if i noticed it. He's in the autistic spectrum.

i hope some one knows what might help, two priest couldn't do anything at my ex's house whe3n they came.

i am a natural empath and wondered if somehow some3thing lachte3d on to me3 afte3r i m3et my 3ex.

 

[Luna's Crone]

i am thinking that i am harboring negative, bad energies from all the things he did and said to me. they not nice, but not really ritualistic. I just need to find a way to free myself from these. They are making life harder, i can't blow stuff off like i used to. I count on Gaia and Luna to be my family. But i don't know how to ask there help.

 

[Sztar]

Have you tried getting rid of everything that you associate with him? I would clean house and use a couple of items to destroy more ritualistically to signal to your unconscious mind that you are ridding yourself of a negative association. I wouldn't make a big show of the destruction, but I'd do it during a waning moon, preferably a few days or week before the new moon. Then I'd make the new moon cycle about welcoming positive vibrations into your space. I dont really believe in hexes. A "hex" only affects you if you believe in it, right?

 

[RiverRunsDeep]

i am a natural empath and wondered if somehow some3thing lachte3d on to me3 afte3r i m3et my 3ex.

Sorry to hear about your situation, Luna's Crone. Hope your finger is healing well!

I am an empath as well. Rather than "something" latching on to you, it is possible that your bad luck is a result of the negative thoughts and ill wishes your ex sends in your direction, especially if he is still actively antagonistic towards you, and especially if you aren't actively protecting yourself against it. Your ability as an empath makes you susceptible to other peoples' negativity, with the danger that it could manifest in your life (such as the bad luck and bad health you have described).

Several years ago, I was working for an extremely evil and nasty woman. Nasty to everyone, not just me. I ended up quitting that job, but she wouldn't simply let me leave peacefully. Many arguments ensued, as well as false accusations on her part, and I left on very bad terms. For the next few weeks, I could still feel her negativity and hatred like a physical presence in my life. I have no doubt she was wishing bad things for me. I started feeling extremely stressed, anxious, sick, and none of my efforts towards a new job were successful.

I ended up doing the following mini ritual to protect myself. (I found the ritual in a book; I no longer remember its title). I taped a photo of myself to the back of a small makeup mirror, then placed it in a window with the the mirror side facing out. I briefly meditated on how the mirror would protect me; any negative thoughts or wishes coming from outside would be reflected and bounced back to its source. Within a few days, I was feeling much better, and I found a new job by the end of that week. Might have been coincidence, or the power of positive thinking or, as I believe, the positive effects of an empath protecting herself.

Anyway, my advice would be to do a specific protection-based ritual, then figure out a daily practice for how to stay protected. I often do a daily meditation, imagining that I am surrounded in an "egg" of white light, representative of universal love and energy. When I feel especially susceptible to the negativity around me, I will also carry a black obsidian (or other black colored stone) in my pocket.

ETA: I meant to add....I really like Sztar's idea as well. A ritual like that is an effective way for you to symbolically draw a line that says, "That part of my life is over, and the energies of that time no longer affect me".

 

[Luna's Crone]

Have you tried getting rid of everything that you associate with him? I would clean house and use a couple of items to destroy more ritualistically to signal to your unconscious mind that you are ridding yourself of a negative association. I wouldn't make a big show of the destruction, but I'd do it during a waning moon, preferably a few days or week before the new moon. Then I'd make the new moon cycle about welcoming positive vibrations into your space. I dont really believe in hexes. A "hex" only affects you if you believe in it, right?

thank you and yes. and I don't believe in hexes, just wasn't sure what to call negative energy that makes my life harder. I have nothing of his around. but my kids, so they have to stay lol.

there is waning moon tonight. may try and work that up.

 

[Luna's Crone]

Sorry to hear about your situation, Luna's Crone. Hope your finger is healing well!

I am an empath as well. Rather than "something" latching on to you, it is possible that your bad luck is a result of the negative thoughts and ill wishes your ex sends in your direction, especially if he is still actively antagonistic towards you, and especially if you aren't actively protecting yourself against it. Your ability as an empath makes you susceptible to other peoples' negativity, with the danger that it could manifest in your life (such as the bad luck and bad health you have described).

Several years ago, I was working for an extremely evil and nasty woman. Nasty to everyone, not just me. I ended up quitting that job, but she wouldn't simply let me leave peacefully. Many arguments ensued, as well as false accusations on her part, and I left on very bad terms. For the next few weeks, I could still feel her negativity and hatred like a physical presence in my life. I have no doubt she was wishing bad things for me. I started feeling extremely stressed, anxious, sick, and none of my efforts towards a new job were successful.

I ended up doing the following mini ritual to protect myself. (I found the ritual in a book; I no longer remember its title). I taped a photo of myself to the back of a small makeup mirror, then placed it in a window with the the mirror side facing out. I briefly meditated on how the mirror would protect me; any negative thoughts or wishes coming from outside would be reflected and bounced back to its source. Within a few days, I was feeling much better, and I found a new job by the end of that week. Might have been coincidence, or the power of positive thinking or, as I believe, the positive effects of an empath protecting herself.

Anyway, my advice would be to do a specific protection-based ritual, then figure out a daily practice for how to stay protected. I often do a daily meditation, imagining that I am surrounded in an "egg" of white light, representative of universal love and energy. When I feel especially susceptible to the negativity around me, I will also carry a black obsidian (or other black colored stone) in my pocket.

ETA: I meant to add....I really like Sztar's idea as well. A ritual like that is an effective way for you to symbolically draw a line that says, "That part of my life is over, and the energies of that time no longer affect me".

I really been neglectful with myself cuz of the depression and stuff. will do the mirrow thing tomorrow. at 64 i don't know where that mirror is LOL and I like the encasement theory as well. will do all these things.

thank you so much ladies. as for the finger....it's internallly infected. sigh. and i did everything i was told, but that may have more to do with my age and skin condition.

 

[Sztar]

thank you and yes. and I don't believe in hexes, just wasn't sure what to call negative energy that makes my life harder. I have nothing of his around. but my kids, so they have to stay lol.

there is waning moon tonight. may try and work that up.

If you don't have anything of his, you can draw something or use an old photo of him or anything else that you can associate with him. You could just use a black candle for that matter and carve his name into it. (I agree that your kids will have to stay LOL!) Anyway, it doesn't matter as long as you have something to focus on. Then whenever you start to think about him, visualize him flying away from you out into space, along with all of the other negativity. I once used this visualization when I wanted to sever ties with an old friend. Every time I started thinking about him, I put him farther and farther out into space! Then I immediately refocused on something else. Eventually I just quit thinking about him, especially after I started focusing on the positive things I wanted to bring into my life. Anyway, whatever you do, good luck!

 

[Luna's Crone]

If you don't have anything of his, you can draw something or use an old photo of him or anything else that you can associate with him. You could just use a black candle for that matter and carve his name into it. (I agree that your kids will have to stay LOL!) Anyway, it doesn't matter as long as you have something to focus on. Then whenever you start to think about him, visualize him flying away from you out into space, along with all of the other negativity. I once used this visualization when I wanted to sever ties with an old friend. Every time I started thinking about him, I put him farther and farther out into space! Then I immediately refocused on something else. Eventually I just quit thinking about him, especially after I started focusing on the positive things I wanted to bring into my life. Anyway, whatever you do, good luck!

thats just it, i think about him everyday. i didn't really notice that. i always visulized him walking towards me and i reach out with to fingers and pinch his little head till it popped. i got that idea from a show called fridays that used to be on in competition with snl. but i think your idea is better. And i definitly do not have any pix in this house of him....lol