Basic types of questions

tiger lily

The Essential Three:

1. What do I need to know regarding...?
2. What do I need to embrace regarding...?
3. What do I need to do regarding...?

These three questions involve the three possible levels on which you can address any problem: head (intellectual analysis), heart (emotional response) and hands (according actions). Let me elaborate a bit more on them:

A reading based on the "need to know" question will provide you with information about the situation from various angles. It will seldom give a direct advice. It is recommended when you feel that you are going in circles in your analysis, when you feel that you are overlooking something important or when you need an outside perspective of things. Readings of this kind will widen your horizon and deepen your understanding of the situation, but will put little emphasis on coping skills or proactive strategies.

A reading based on the "need to embrace" question will adress your emotional responses to a problem.
To embrace doesn?t only mean to accept something, but to let it into your heart, to be passionate about it, to be filled with spirit (enthusiasm). These readings will show you where your heart is in the matter, where you are limiting yourself by self-destructive or inept coping strategies and where you can gain a greater sense of magic and passion in your life. Readings of this kind tend to be very psychological or spiritual, but not very practical.

A reading based on the "need to do" question will come closest to the "yes/no" answer that most people want to receive. Still, it won?t explicitly tell you what to do. Rather, it will give you two or more strategies and their possible consequences. You still decide which way you go. While these readings touch on the "why?s", they don?t go too deeply into intellectual or psychological analysis, but tend to be mostly action-oriented.
 

Kaz

For the same problem, do any of you do a spread 3 times, asking the 3 above mentioned questions?

Kaz
 

tiger lily

You can do that, if the problem is very complicated and you want to dig very deep ;-), but in most cases, it?s not necessary, because you simply assign one or more card positions to each type. Also, most problems call only for one approach - you?re seldom blocked on *all* three levels of coping.
 

purplelady

Thanks Tigerlily.I have never put my questions specifically in these 3 catagories before. But this had made me think.It also makes sense , and clarifies. And I'm also going to print out this thread and put it in a notebook where I keep different spreads. I realized that often I read my spreads regarding what I need to know Or what I need to embrace. And while I find the reading satisfying, I don't seem to be able to explain it to someone else in a way that they understand! You are right , a lot of people want a reading that tells them what to do in a yes/no type way , and when my reading isn't like that , they think I don't know how to read cards.
 

purplelady

But another question- are you saying that you pick one of these 3 type questions for a particular spread? And how do you Know which question is the one you need to ask?
What if you believe you need to Know about something , but in reality you need to embrace something?
That is why I usually leave my question kind-of open ended and then determine from the cards what they are saying.
 

tiger lily

Oh, oh... in my attempt to make things simpler, I complicated them instead ;-) bad me...

How do I know which question to ask? Well... I just do. I mean, when I?m faced with a problem, I usually know where I?m stuck - am I having a hard time coming to terms with something? Or do I know what I want, but don?t know how to achieve it? Am I missing some important piece of information?

I think most questions start with the plea for help: What should I *do*? but when you start thinking about it, you usually discover that you have a pretty good idea what you *want* to do. The problem lies then either in the head - when you lack information - or in the heart - when you *feel* blocked for some reason.

To make a long-winded explanations shorter ;-) : when you?re faced with a *specific* problem, you?ll know where the problem lies... and if you don?t, you simply ask: What do i need to know regarding...
 

purplelady

No Tigerlily, you haven't complicated things, I have! Sorry! I'm just kind-of brainstorming/thinking out loud/trying to throw some interesting questions out there and seeing what comes back! Your posts did help me see 'the question to ask ' in a clearer or new perspective.
 

cj

tigerlily (18 Nov, 2001 21:52):
The Essential Three:

1. What do I need to know regarding...?
2. What do I need to embrace regarding...?
3. What do I need to do regarding...?


Thanks for the infomation.. Do you do any specific spreads you use. different for each question or the same for all three.

cj
 

tiger lily

cj: The only specific spread I use is the Celtic Cross (although some would say that the CC isn?t a "specific" spread ;-) ); most of the time I only throw five cards and read them together - a "free" or "spreadless spread".

My intention was to show the different viewpoints from which you can approach any problem. They aren?t limited to certain spreads, although they can help to create new spreads.
 

Melvis

I like your question analysis, tigerlily. Very thought provoking. :)

Have any of you ever read either of Gail Fairfield's books on Choice-Centered Tarot? She works in a similar vein, by spending time before the reading to make sure you ask the right question. She also explains very well how to come up with a spread for the subject you're inquiring about by figuring out several specific questions you'd like answered, and then throwing one or more cards in reply to each question.

I'm making it sound more complicated than it is, but I've found it very helpful in getting out of the Celtic Cross rut. After a while, it felt like I was just doing the same reading with the same results over and over again with the CC.

I also like how you throw 5 cards, tigerlily. I do a 'free-form' spread myself with nine cards in a diamond pattern.

Peace,

Melvis