too grounded for my spirit?....

[yaraluna]

Dear all,
I am in need of some feedback please...
I have a new partner in my life since the Autumn which has been wonderful on many aspects of it. there is one issue though. My boyfriend is left brain guided, analytical, rational, kind, gentle and compassionate all at the same time. I find that his presence in my life grounds me very much. I am a dreamer, right brain, artistic, intuitive, urban shaman and his love is grounding me so much that i find my spirit side suffering from non-attention. he is quite loving an dunderstanding of my spirit side and interested in knowing more and learning more about intuition, guidance,etc . I hope i am making sense here ;-)
is there anything anyone may suggest or recommend or comment about how to deal with this in a way that will be beneficial for both of us? mainly, how do i maintain my spirit intuitive self nurtured while i am grounded by this relationship?

thank you
blessed be
yara

 

[NorthernTigress]

Personally I do not consider the idea of "grounding" to be a negative thing. When you are grounded, you are in contact with the Earth, you feel its stability, its ageless strength. The Earth has Spirit, as much as the Air does, perhaps more so. As a Reiki Master (Well, master in training anyway) I have always, always, always taken energy from the Earth, through my feet, and up through my chakras and into my hands. Many other Reiki users receive their energy from "The Universe", through their Crown Chakras. But that never felt natural to me.

Of course, that is assuming that you are actually using the word "grounded" to mean the state of feeling connected to the Earth. And not, in fact, using it as a metaphor for your Significant Other's rational side "bringing you down". That is a completely different issue, and can only be helped by having an honest, open relationship. And by "honest and open" I mean you speaking frankly to your SO, and stating that you have a Spiritual Side, and that it needs to be nurtured, and that doing so may involve you doing things that aren't exactly rational and analytical.

 

[Milfoil]

Personally I do not consider the idea of "grounding" to be a negative thing. When you are grounded, you are in contact with the Earth, you feel its stability, its ageless strength. The Earth has Spirit, as much as the Air does, perhaps more so. As a Reiki Master (Well, master in training anyway) I have always, always, always taken energy from the Earth, through my feet, and up through my chakras and into my hands. Many other Reiki users receive their energy from "The Universe", through their Crown Chakras. But that never felt natural to me.

Of course, that is assuming that you are actually using the word "grounded" to mean the state of feeling connected to the Earth. And not, in fact, using it as a metaphor for your Significant Other's rational side "bringing you down". That is a completely different issue, and can only be helped by having an honest, open relationship. And by "honest and open" I mean you speaking frankly to your SO, and stating that you have a Spiritual Side, and that it needs to be nurtured, and that doing so may involve you doing things that aren't exactly rational and analytical.

Agreed, being grounded is essential so that we don't 'float off in to la-la land'. Being grounded allows the rational side to keep us in balance but only if it doesn't take over completely. Likewise if the dreamer side of us takes over, we can believe in things which have no basis in any reality and can put us in danger. The balance is the key - sounds like you two are meant for oneanother.

For example, being too grounded means that someone may dismiss a spiritual aspect to their illness and suffer needlessly because they cannot be open to possibilities, on the other hand someone ungrounded may trust that spiritual healing is all that is necessary to cure their cancer and we all know where that can lead.

The balance is vital but, as NorthernTigress says, is this about how you don't feel free to do whatever it is you feel necessary for your spiritual beliefs because you fear he will laugh at them or pick holes in them? If this is the case, then sometimes our beliefs need to be tested so that we keep what 'hold water' or 'grows corn' and dismiss the chaff.

 

[celticnoodle]

Dear all,
I am in need of some feedback please...
I have a new partner in my life since the Autumn which has been wonderful on many aspects of it. there is one issue though. My boyfriend is left brain guided, analytical, rational, kind, gentle and compassionate all at the same time. I find that his presence in my life grounds me very much. I am a dreamer, right brain, artistic, intuitive, urban shaman and his love is grounding me so much that i find my spirit side suffering from non-attention. he is quite loving an dunderstanding of my spirit side and interested in knowing more and learning more about intuition, guidance,etc . I hope i am making sense here ;-)

perfect sense!

is there anything anyone may suggest or recommend or comment about how to deal with this in a way that will be beneficial for both of us?

yes. you mention that he is interested in knowing more and learning more about intuition, guidance, etc. why not share with him what you do? what you know? go slowly at first, and share what you enjoy the most. Then, if he shows an interest, continue on. Maybe even the two of you could learn together then as well. wouldn't that be great?

mainly, how do i maintain my spirit intuitive self nurtured while i am grounded by this relationship?

thank you
blessed be
yara

I think sharing what you do, know and have an interest in is a great start. Also perhaps explaining to him that sometimes you need to do this on your own and then take time to do things like you normally did--w/o him around. Surely he would understand and support that? It sounds to me like your partner wants to support you in anyway that will help you to continue to grow, while he also learns about what it is that interests you so much. how lucky for you! good luck and enjoy.

 

[yaraluna]

thank you all for your replies so far.

celticnod, you are right. he is loving and nurturing and even studied theology in his undergrad studies. ;-) he has experimented in dreaming techniques etcfor what he has shared, but it seems his logic mind has lead him to just set himself as an engineer and put the spirit side away. we need to talk more about this part of his life.

I will share more with him and see how we can share this part of both our lives in a loving and balanced way.
when i say 'grounding' i mean several things:
-i feel grounded to earth and its energy
-i feel grounded to the everyday simplicities of life and i am enjoying a partner that is in a different area of life than my previous one.
-i know he is my life partner this time around, as opposed to my previous partner who is my soulmate and connected in an intellectual and spirit level that i have never had with anyone in this lifetime.
-there is a difference between life partner and soul mate and the former is my current partner.

yara

 

[Padma]

Yara, I have the same deal going on in my marriage. I have been married now for 20 years to a very rational, intellectual leader of people, and it can at times be very difficult to merge my essential self with a military guy, in a military lifestyle. But here's the thing - all people have a sense of spirituality, of one kind or another...and so you can share yours with him, which will in turn gently encourage him to share his with you.

Clearly he is nurturing and supportive, you say - and so I believe your two worlds can meet and be in harmony, and yet you can still have the space and freedom to pursue your own studies and interests, and share a bit of that with him.

You can both be yourselves and be together, too and find more common ground to be together comfortably in.

I am not saying it isn't occasionally frustrating - very - but there are too many good sides to give it up, for me - sounds the same for you. And, providing you both respect each other and give each other that essential space, then the grounding is a very good thing, and may even help you channel your spirituality more effectivley! Communication and respect are the keys here

Good luck!

 

[celticnoodle]

thank you all for your replies so far.

celticnod, you are right. he is loving and nurturing and even studied theology in his undergrad studies. ;-) he has experimented in dreaming techniques etcfor what he has shared, but it seems his logic mind has lead him to just set himself as an engineer and put the spirit side away. we need to talk more about this part of his life.

I will share more with him and see how we can share this part of both our lives in a loving and balanced way.
when i say 'grounding' i mean several things:
-i feel grounded to earth and its energy
-i feel grounded to the everyday simplicities of life and i am enjoying a partner that is in a different area of life than my previous one.
-i know he is my life partner this time around, as opposed to my previous partner who is my soulmate and connected in an intellectual and spirit level that i have never had with anyone in this lifetime.
-there is a difference between life partner and soul mate and the former is my current partner.

yara

He sounds a lot like my own husband. My husband has the same qualities as you described in your partner and my husband is also an engineer. He also has some psychic abilities (can at times see spirit), but he always explains it away in a logical manner. That said, he also supports my spiritual side. He does ask questions now and again, but has not gone as far as your partner has, in asking me to share in depth about my beliefs and the things I do--psychic readings, ect. He does every now and again ask me to do a tarot card reading for him. So, he is coming around, perhaps a bit slower then your partner though. My husband now carries some of my business cards in his wallet and hands them to people he comes into contact with that indicate an interest in readings as well--a HUGE step forward, I think.

But here's the thing - all people have a sense of spirituality, of one kind or another...and so you can share yours with him, which will in turn gently encourage him to share his with you.

BINGO! you hit the nail on the head here, LP!

You can both be yourselves and be together, too and find more common ground to be together comfortably in.

here, you summed it up beautifully! This is SO true and important in any relationship, not just one where there is one who thinks very logically and another who speaks very spiritually.

And, providing you both respect each other and give each other that essential space, then the grounding is a very good thing, and may even help you channel your spirituality more effectivley! Communication and respect are the keys here

Good luck!

And this last bit is also well written, LP. Again this is a very important part of any relationship.

 

[Padma]

He sounds a lot like my own husband. My husband has the same qualities as you described in your partner and my husband is also an engineer. He also has some psychic abilities (can at times see spirit), but he always explains it away in a logical manner. That said, he also supports my spiritual side. He does ask questions now and again, but has not gone as far as your partner has, in asking me to share in depth about my beliefs and the things I do--psychic readings, ect. He does every now and again ask me to do a tarot card reading for him. So, he is coming around, perhaps a bit slower then your partner though. My husband now carries some of my business cards in his wallet and hands them to people he comes into contact with that indicate an interest in readings as well--a HUGE step forward, I think.

BINGO! you hit the nail on the head here, LP!

here, you summed it up beautifully! This is SO true and important in any relationship, not just one where there is one who thinks very logically and another who speaks very spiritually.

And this last bit is also well written, LP. Again this is a very important part of any relationship.

Thanks, CN for your kind comments. Looks like you and I have a similar experience! so I guess that's why we could both relate to Yaraluna

My husband has come forward spiritually a lot in our 20 years, and actually now believes - even set up a little altar of crystals and power animals on his desk in his new office today - and he truly believes, as I do, that they will work for him...he has told me that he has seen too much come true to disbelieve! lol!

I do believe, within different spheres, there is a place in the middle where they merge...and that is where we join forces no yin without yang, and vice versa! And, CN, that is soooo cool of your husband to pass out your business cards - bully for him! Also you gave excellent advice, I thought - not just for Yara, I took some of that in, too

All I can think of at the moment is how the kings of Britain would be guided and bedded by the High Priestesses of Avalon, for the greater good of the land... *wink* a mutually beneficial partnership, and the good extended to all in the vicinity...spirit needs earth, and earth needs spirit, for both to thrive and survive.

(also a note here for Northern Tigress and Milfoil - You were both also giving excellent guidance and advice! )

Thanks for posting this, Yaraluna, the advice given to you here is beneficial to all of us who are in the same boat

 

[celticnoodle]

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My husband has come forward spiritually a lot in our 20 years, and actually now believes - even set up a little altar of crystals and power animals on his desk in his new office today - and he truly believes, as I do, that they will work for him...he has told me that he has seen too much come true to disbelieve! lol!

lol! so there is still hope for my husband, then?!

I haven't and don't plan to even approach the subject of power animals with him yet! He is still getting use to the idea of spirit guides being around us all the time. He puts up with my crystals and altars and is also now okay with all my little statues--Catholic statues and other spiritual ones and my crystal balls being out in the open now. So who knows, maybe a few more years, he'll be ready for the power animals too!

 

[Padma]

lol! so there is still hope for my husband, then?!

I haven't and don't plan to even approach the subject of power animals with him yet! He is still getting use to the idea of spirit guides being around us all the time. He puts up with my crystals and altars and is also now okay with all my little statues--Catholic statues and other spiritual ones and my crystal balls being out in the open now. So who knows, maybe a few more years, he'll be ready for the power animals too!

Lol - with the amount of ghosts in your house, you'd think he'd be really tuned in! hahaha! Sounds like he is coming along, though - and, after all, you just want him to accept you and your beliefs and not *become* you, right...? lol...I do depend on my husband's remaining grounded, to help me be so, as well