Went to a medium event, strange results

[Meditarot]

This was my second time participating to a medium event. It happened a few days ago. There were different people gathered, and one medium, whom had educated herself professionally on the topic, delivering messages.


The medium event was about half way through, when kind of a strange thing happened.

As I was exhaling through my nose, I had a strange sensation, like a rose oil-like perfume was being held below my nose. It was quite faint, but I smelled it always while exhaling outwards (not inwards). Imagine kind of a cloudy pink mist coming out of my nose while exhaling outwards, "that" kind of a perfume smell.

It was a weird feeling and I wasn't sure whether I imagined it or whether it was something else.

While this had gone on for about 5 minutes, the female medium contacted me from the front.


She said my grandfather had contacted her and followed to depict somewhat accurately my deceased grandfather's home place. It wasn't all accurate, but it wasn't a complete hit & miss either. Sometimes she needed a little nodge from me.

"This.. I'm sensing that [thing x]."
Me: "Well, there was a [thing y]."
"Oh yes, that was what I meant."

She did depict the correct bloodline too (which bloodline of my parent's he represented)

I didn't really know what to think of it, and then the medium continued on to the actual message.



And this one was where I went really confused, because the message which the person told didn't really sound at times like it would've come from my grandfather's mouth.

When he, before death, had the habit of saying to me at times, "I'll tell you, you just burn those study books of yours and move here to my place. You'll make a good place to live here, and I'll teach you the ways of the forest." He was of course partially joking, but he partially meant what he said too.

He cared about me and after all, he was always a very practical man and didn't like theoretical stuff.


Now the woman told me that he was encouraging me to continue my studies and "develop my techniques". This I didn't really understand. Develop my studying techniques, or these tarot reading techniques which I had recently developed? (He was a man who liked mystical things too, and had lots of stories around it. Still, he was no tarot reader or a divinator, but simply a story teller).

Also, the lady went on to mention my issues with relationships, and how I could make them more positive (By developing my heart energy and by emitting more light around me. Right now I was an "open/closed" type of a person - which was partially right, I admit.

But at times it simply felt like it was more the lady giving advices, than my grandfather.

Then she said that my grandfather would make his best efforts that I would confront some good people in the near future.

This was where I also went quite baffled.
I had imagined my grandfather as the old, practical, wise and joking man sitting at his rocking chair.

Now he's some sort of a guardian creature, who goes about the world and affects in things?

I went into kind of a poker face, but I didn't know whether I would just simply walk outside to think on it, or stay in order to make my respects.


But it did felt partially comforting that the lady depicted him now as healthy, and that this man was "immensely happy to see me here, and that I was the only one (of my bloodline) to do this kind of a thing. (to go to a medium event in order to make contact).
In the end, the lady simply had to end the contact, even though the man would've liked to just continue on and on. He was so happy about the whole thing, and wished me to come again some time."



After the event I was, not only baffled but also exhausted. My close but deceased grandfather had "contacted" me, but I had not truly recognized my grandfather through the medium.

I just couldn't be sure whether it was him or not.


Different thoughts went in my head;

Was I contacted? She did depict some things quite accurately after all.
But why was the message so weird then, not necessarily sounding like from my grandfather?
He was happy to see me, that I could've imagined well, but at times it just didn't seem right.

And if the whole thing was fake, then how..



One thing was sure, I couldn't tell people about it. It felt too absurd for even myself, let alone for my relatives or my family.

Perhaps I'll visit the event some other time again, perhaps I'll try to forge my own way.

But it was an unique experience to say the least.

 

[moon_light]

Were the things she got right true for a lot of people? How specific was she? For instance, saying he lived in a blue, wood house is more specific and true of fewer people than just a blue house or a wood house. Does that make sense? The more specific and unusual her "hits," the more inclined I'd be to believe her.

 

[ravynangel]

Passed over loved ones don't change in personality when they pass over. Sure, they will probably gain an alternative perspective about events that happened whilst they were on this plane, but their mannerisms and ways of communicating wouldn't change. I would trust how you are feeling on this one, as you seem to feel that there was a lot of cold reading going on in this session. My daughter recently went to a local psychic and she made mention that she had a man with her. Now my father passed last year and his granddaughter was a fave, but if he was truly with her, there is no way in Hades she would have the nose piercing she has now, which happened right after the reading. My father told me to not enter his house with one many moons ago, and trust me, that side of his nature would never change Be careful with your heart when they mention passed over loved ones. It's such an easy way of building business, sadly

 

[Meditarot]

Were the things she got right true for a lot of people? How specific was she? For instance, saying he lived in a blue, wood house is more specific and true of fewer people than just a blue house or a wood house. Does that make sense? The more specific and unusual her "hits," the more inclined I'd be to believe her.

The person did get it somewhat accurately.

Let's say my grandfather lived in a red house with a backyard cabin with stone foundations. There's a lot of birches around the place, and there's a river near the road, plus another house in the beginning of the road.


I do have to note that she thought clearly longer before starting to say anything for me, when she chose me as the one to read to.

Perhaps there was a barrage of information - perhaps she wanted to consider her words more carefully, because I was kind of a "special quest" there, clearly younger than others of the audience.

Not to say that seniors aren't special too, I just mean that those were the majority of the audience.


After speaking of how glad the spirit was that I was there (and a few other mentions on that, which I've mentioned in my previous post), she would continue to describe the place:

"I see a lot of birches, and a point of water next to the road. The house is darkly coloured, and there's another house too.. Made of stone."

At this point I commented that it's not made of stone, but has stone foundations.

"Then it must be that then."



*Turning for another topic*


"Your grandfather died when you were little, yes?"

"Well.." *With a doubting tone, going to comment that he died just recently*

"Oh but now I see. He wants to talk of something about when you were little."


" ... You used to wear these certain type of shoes while visiting him, when you were little.. *Continues to describe them*."

"I can't say nothing on that. I simply can't remember."

"Oh but he remembers."

There were these kind of things. Some she would get rather nicely, with others she would stumble about.

Also, she felt.. A bit cold at times - not really empathic. Once, there was a bit shy person whom this medium talked to.

*in a bit commanding tone* "You need to speak out more clearly my dear, otherwise no one can't hear you.

I need to have an answer."


I have to say she didn't give me a really lasting impression.


I didn't feel that much passion radiating from her. It felt a bit like the event was "just another day at the office" for her.


I actually felt that it would've been more plausible that the person just went and tried to read my mind and visual memories, than getting an actual connection.

That would also explain why I got that weird experience before she contacted me.

But after all, I don't know if psychics or mediums are even capable of mind reading.

 

[Meditarot]

Passed over loved ones don't change in personality when they pass over. Sure, they will probably gain an alternative perspective about events that happened whilst they were on this plane, but their mannerisms and ways of communicating wouldn't change. I would trust how you are feeling on this one, as you seem to feel that there was a lot of cold reading going on in this session. My daughter recently went to a local psychic and she made mention that she had a man with her. Now my father passed last year and his granddaughter was a fave, but if he was truly with her, there is no way in Hades she would have the nose piercing she has now, which happened right after the reading. My father told me to not enter his house with one many moons ago, and trust me, that side of his nature would never change Be careful with your heart when they mention passed over loved ones. It's such an easy way of building business, sadly

So you think that your father would've prevented the acquirement of a nose piercing, or that your daughter went and got a nose piercing because of something that happened at the reading?



Anyways, you are quite right of which you write here.


I was disappointed, actually a bit sad after the event. I felt kind of like the person had used me and my longing for a passed over one, in order to get acceptance of the crowd.


I also lost temporarily my eagerness for tarot readings, but I've been coming back at them now.

 

[ravynangel]

So you think that your father would've prevented the acquirement of a nose piercing, or that your daughter went and got a nose piercing because of something that happened at the reading?



Anyways, you are quite right of which you write here.


I was disappointed, actually a bit sad after the event. I felt kind of like the person had used me and my longing for a passed over one, in order to get acceptance of the crowd.


I also lost temporarily my eagerness for tarot readings, but I've been coming back at them now.

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[ana luisa]

Meditarot, have you ever considered contacting him yourself through cards or meditation ? I never understood why people should have "fewer" chances of contacting the ones they love and miss as opposed to a complete stranger. Granted, there are phenomenal mediums out there but I believe you could get in touch with him yourself. There are wonderful spreads for that and the message, when received by you will come as something much deeper and intimate and not as a theatrical performance...

 

[NightVision]

Meditarot, I'd go with your gut on this. You didn't connect with her and I doubt your Grandad did either. Maybe he was telling you to wake up and smell the roses

 

[mysticsphere]

i hope i don't come off as rude, but everything you explained sounded like cold reading. It seemed she just took whatever answer you gave her and spun it: "oh, uh, that's what i meant!"

If you feel uncomfortable about the experience, i would dismiss it. Connecting with dead loved ones is supposed to make you feel better afterwards, they are life affirming, and can be healing--not confusing, or doubtful.

Anyways, just my two cents!

 

[Melia]

If your grandfather lived in a house near birches and a point of water, then wouldn't that possibly - POSSIBLY - be your grandfather the medium picked up on? How many things did this medium accurately pick up on about the grandfather? Also, when souls cross to the other side, some will have a change of heart about certain things ... so it's not unusual for these souls to try and come through and get their now revised message across in such circumstances. If the grandfather telling you that you should continue with your studies resonates with you, then it could have possibly been your grandfather.

Sadly though, group sessions held by mediums (even gifted ones) are indeed often "just another day in the office" for them. If you want a more valuable, and thorough reading - where you can ask about your grandfather - seek out a one-on-one session with a medium.

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As an aside, a medium by definition is one that has the ability to contact spirits, so a person going to a medium for a reading should expect they are going to probably talk about loved ones that have passed over. It's also the medium's way of giving the client information that can be validated in order to 'prove' themselves (for want of a better word) to the client.