I like the points of the posts up to now, and this particular idea seems like a pretty possible one since you seem to favor it. More or less, I see valid points which could be better if you gave us some content to clarify it further. If your relationship indeed has reduced his sense of autonomy, authority and control of his life so he feels forced, restricted and you intuitevely know this is what the reading suggests to you then you have your answers. But if you would like us to form a more complete opinion on the meaning you could give us some more cards of the spread.