Okay, I hope I don't screw up my answer with bad English now LOL let's see... I want to almost say, both?! I guess I resent the idea that a powerful woman is never a victim of some sort, because of the patriarchy we live in it's almost inevitable. I just got this memory of seeing an interview with Rihanna, after she was abused by C. Brown, and she was asked something like "We're all thinking how could someone as strong as you fall victim to this?" and Rihanna almost interrupted the interviewer saying with no doubt whatsoever "I AM strong. I am strong. And this still happened to me." and I loved that! It really touched me.
Some of the women in the deck do look like they're victimized, but at the same time I personally see in their facial expressions and poses that they will get through it, they will come out stronger afterwards. If you look at the Five of Wands - Yes, she's tied down and someone might be on their way to hurt her. But look at her willpower, strong body, aggressive facial expressions, to me that all says that she has the power to get out of there. The court cards are also great at showing those strong faces and eyes, in my opinion.
I loved your answer to this question, Citrin, and can relate to what you say in my own personal experience of this deck as well.
Ludy Lescot is an interesting deck to bring up for the reasons you mention. I think it is a wonderful deck for exploring that particular facet how the feminine manifests in our world.
Also agree with the post bringing up the Tarot of Vampyres... Though I do think we could very well consider both of these decks to actually be quite balanced in terms of feminine/masculine. And yet, I go back and forth, because I do find they embrace the feminine in a way that deserves mention.. the art of course, but something about the feel of them. It's the emotion and sensuality in the images.
As for Oracle decks... I would recommend the Sacred Rebels Oracle (by Alana Fairchild) first and foremost. It's quickly becoming one of my favorite decks. It's gorgeous and very emotionally therapeutic. And it's feminine without trying too hard... it just
is. (ETA: there is one card I can remember that mentions mothering in the guidebook, "Card 39 Free From Judgment, Free to Love" but it doesn't overwhelm the card meaning I don't think)
A lot of decks by Blue Angel publishing in general would fit the bill...
I'm wanting to say the Oracle of the Mermaids (Lucy Cavendish) because it SO feminine, but there are a couple cards that depict pregnancy/mothering, but since it's not ALL that's in there, I'll mention it here alongside that small disclaimer.