rwcarter said:
My version takes up more vertical space whereas afrosaxon's (her) version takes up more horizontal space. That's another to-may-to/to-mah-to thing though.
I can tell that we would have fun in real life! LOL ;-)
rwcarter said:
Not sure where you got that 5th position from.... afrosaxon's 5th position was the outcome of the partner cheating, not the possibility of the partner cheating. Wouldn't the possibility of the partner cheating be covered in my position 4 - what's really going on with the partner? A position worded as "the possibility of...." really only yields an answer of very likely, likely, unclear, unlikely, very unlikely. I find "the possibility of..." as a position limiting because it narrows the scope of the answer to basically a yes/no about whatever's the subject of the possibility.
Again.. you think through these things better than I.
I don't really put any focus on a certain question being more important. {Remember.. I am the one that does only TWO very basic spreads}. BIG GRIN!
So.. the positions to me really doesn't make a difference. I am just taking your guy's word for it. If it gets me the info I want.. any way is perfect. lol
The wording. 'what is really going on with my partner" is good though would it cover {what is really going on with my partner in regards to my suspicions of cheating?} What if we aren't clear about "what is really going on with my partner" and it addresses something other than cheating?
rwcarter said:
I'm pretty literal with my interpretations based on how the positions are worded. Other readers may have no problem interpreting a "possibility" position as "very likely because blah blah blah." I don't see the "because blah blah blah" part as being covered by a "possibility" position. That could be overcome with "what's the possibility and why" but I'm not fond of two questions in one position. So we'd have to add two more positions (possibility and why), turning it into a 7 card spread. And I don't think that's necessary because I think position 4 covers what you're trying to get at.
I can see your point, but do you understand what I am trying to say in the above reply? The question should be more clear on 'the real thing that is going on with my partner about cheating". Maybe two more positions would be good? I dunno. I will reread this when I get more time. I am having to hurry out the door. I understand your points and they are valid. I just want to make sure that the questions asked {in each position} clearly focus on getting to the fact of cheating is or will occur. {though it would have to be the possibility because you yourself said that nothing is set}.
rwcarter said:
At least the way I see my wording of position 4, it could reveal infidelity or a secret or that the partner is engrossed in work or that financial problems are the root of the partner's actions, etc. As worded, it could also show something else that's going on with the partner instead of them cheating (i.e., this is going on with the partner and s/he's cheating, but I'm only going to show you the other thing). So maybe position 4 needs to be reworded to be "The most important thing the Querent needs to know about what's going on with the partner." That way if the partner is engrossed in work because s/he is cheating with a co-worker, the cheating should hopefully come up instead of the being engrossed in work.
That is the exact thing I am wanting to avoid. Just because a person is preoccupied with work, illness, whatever doesn't then mean they are not cheating too. So.. with your wording.. you are assuming that just because they are having a bad day, work problems, etc then there could be no way of cheating. My EX was engrossed with work {he worked 80+ hours a week} but amazingly he was cheating with many people during that time. So again.. being busy doesn't mean no cheating.
rwcarter said:
Using afrosaxon's layout and my wording, I would rearrange the positions as follows:
1.........4
........................5
2.........3
Having the physical and emotional indicators on different lines makes one seem more important than the other. So they both need to be either on the same row or in the same column.
Rodney
As I stated, I am new to Tarot reading but with my readings I haven't had to have them in any set order to get an accurate reading. {or a reading that people understand/relate to}. So I guess I don't think of the positions as you do. I think of a spread with positions as getting some answers not where something sits in a lay out. My focus in on each position/question not on where or what is near each said card. I guess for me.. that isn't an issue of having to have them be important. I think every single question in the spread is important. {I hope that makes sense}. lol I am tired.. in a hurry.. so forgive me if I am not making any sense! I wll come back to check later. LOL
Thanks for helping with all of this! I am sure you want to hurt me by now.. lol.. but I just want to make sure that you understand what I want and my thinking. That will help me better understand you too.