EyeAmEye
Charts 1 & 2 have warnings (considerations before judgement) that they may be misleading - I included them not so much because they bear out the idea of separation but that reading the idea of separation out of chart 3 needs to be in the context of those warnings. I might have leaned stronger to separation on the basis of chart 3 alone - but in context I feel that this would be a misleading conclusion at the moment.
One thing that I originally included in my reading and then edited out, was a possible signification of the Moon. The Moon lies on the Descendant, as I said but the Moon also rules the eleventh house of Friends - so this would bear out your statement about her and her husband being more like friends than lovers - I didn't include it because I wasn't that sure - the eleventh also rules hopes and it might have also been a signification that she still had hopes relating to him and that point was already there in the mutual reception. However Lord 11 on the Descendant may well indicate the Husband as a friend (though of itself that doesn't indicate a marriage failure)
Oddly though the ties of friendship can be stronger than the ties of physical love - especially in the long term. My feeling is still that these ties outweigh the pull of the physical attraction to you but it's not an overwhelming 'superiority' astrologically and clearly from what you say it is something that is difficult for her to resolve.
I've taken the physical attraction from three general indicators - firstly assigning the fifth to you as a 'romantic interest' or lover and secondly from the placement of both Lord 5 (Saturn) and Lord 1 (Mercury) in the dignities of Mars and Venus. both natural significators of lovers and finally the mutual application of Mercury and Saturn which shows a very powerful attraction.
As Venus is involved it's not all physical, as would be the case if it was solely Mars. There is the further dimension that you two get on very well together, can relax in each other's company and enjoy life together - it's simply not just a (potential) sexual relationship. But the involvement of Jupiter and the mutual reception between Mercury and Jupiter is a stronger link astrologically than the shared Mars/Venus of Mercury and Saturn. Which is why I feel that ultimately she won't break away from her husband, or if she does she will regret it and the relationship between you will not follow the path that you hope for.
I think she is clearly in a dilemma. Now the reading from this chart is based on you being Lord 5 - the romantic interest, rather than Lord 7, the significant other. My feeling is that she now wants the affair (or the idea of an affair) but is very reluctant to leave her husband. It is also one thing to be attracted to the idea of an affair and another to actually go through with it. So I'm not actually convinced that even if you agreed to an affair, she would actually go along with that for real.
I think you could certainly entice her into an affair but whether it would work is by no means clear. Also if you are looking for a long term relationship in which she leaves her husband and sets up home with you, then I'm not sure that enticing her into an affair is the way to do it because she may well blame you if it doesn't work out.
The willingness to discuss her marriage is 'odd'. Clearly the new job has given her the distance from you to do that but that distance seems to have also increased your attraction to her - more evidence that she has conflicting feelings here. However my overall feeling remains the same - the chart doesn't point to a separation as the clear outcome, rather an affair (and she sees you as such, - whether she admits it to herself or not you are a potential lover, not a potential husband). The conclusion is strengthened by your comment on her views on divorce. With those views I'd want to see a very strong link between Lord 1 and 5 - not only the mutual application but also reception and I'd want to see no reception between Lords 1 and 7 for her to separate willingly. That isn't the situation here and I think the cultural and family ties will win out but it will be painful for her either way.
Your clarification makes a lot of sense.
The part you left out of the original reading and now included seems to be very relevant to the situation as she describes it. She is full aware that he cannot give her the affection she needs and she no longer has the same feelings for him, but at the moment is willing to accept she won't have that in her life for the sake of the family. She keeps hoping he will change and give her that affection, but understands that he likely will never. She still has "love" for him, just not a husband/wife love, so yes, the feelings are strong as friends/companions. And, I agree, the ties of friendship can sometimes be stronger than physical love. Absolutely.
Correct again. There is more than the physical attraction. We get a long extremely well and many people have even commented on how we act like a married couple and we are very relaxed in each other's company. For me, that is extremely rare.
As for the affair aspect, agreed once again. It is not a good idea for either of us and definitely not the path to take if I want a full committed relationship from her, which is exactly what I want. It seems like she is hedging towards an affair slowly as I am trying to make sure it doesn't develop into that for both our sakes.
In the end, yes, I agree fully with your assessment, makes perfect sense now. Thanks very much, it's always appreciated!
EAE