Kiama
I was having a nose about on another spiritual forum on Beliefnet, and the teen section had board about virginity. On it, loads of the members were discussing whether or not virginity should be saved for your wedding night, what virginity was, what true love was, what it entailed, and what marriage was. A frequent mini-discussion was about the body being a temple.
So, what do you think? What would you class as the loss of virginity? Some women have said that, although first time sex for them was being raped, they felt they didn't lose their virginity until they first had consesual sex. And some people have said that sometimes they feel as though their virginity is renewed on thier wedding night or when they make love to a new person for the first time. Obviously this isn't a physical renewal (That would be very annoying!!) but more of a mental one.
Some religions say that sex shoud not be had before marriage. Your virginity is something given by God, and therefore you should not just give it away blindly. It is also seen as something which you have, which nobody can take away from you until you decide to give it to them.
Some people also say that they want to wait until their wedding night, cuz it'll make their new spouse feel so special: So special, cuz this person has kept their virginity specially, sort of like a gift. Then others just point to the practical issues of STD's, pregnancy, etc....
Personally, I think that sex before marriage is absolutely fine, as long as it's with somebody you love. I don't think I could have sex with somebody who I didn't love deeply, because sex for me is a sacred act, and something to be shared with my loved one. Is so personal and intimate, and to share this with somebody you don't trust, or know properly is very brave, amongst other things. I am not a virgin. I lost my virginity about 11 months ago, to the man that is still my boyfriend. I loved him when we made love for the first time, and to me, marriage is merely the legally binding document that signifies to the world that we are together. For me, the loving, sexual union of ur bodies, souls, and minds during the act of love-making is the true marriage, witnessed by both of us, and the Gods. I see my body as a temple, yes, but surely a temple is there for a reason: Not just to be looked at, but to be shared with others. I see my boyfriend's body as a temple also, both of our bodies are gifts from the Gods, but I think that condemning sex before marriage misses the point of what true marriage is.
Some people say that you know when its true love, cuz that does entail being able to wait until your wedding night... I'm not so sure.
What do you guys think?
Kiama
So, what do you think? What would you class as the loss of virginity? Some women have said that, although first time sex for them was being raped, they felt they didn't lose their virginity until they first had consesual sex. And some people have said that sometimes they feel as though their virginity is renewed on thier wedding night or when they make love to a new person for the first time. Obviously this isn't a physical renewal (That would be very annoying!!) but more of a mental one.
Some religions say that sex shoud not be had before marriage. Your virginity is something given by God, and therefore you should not just give it away blindly. It is also seen as something which you have, which nobody can take away from you until you decide to give it to them.
Some people also say that they want to wait until their wedding night, cuz it'll make their new spouse feel so special: So special, cuz this person has kept their virginity specially, sort of like a gift. Then others just point to the practical issues of STD's, pregnancy, etc....
Personally, I think that sex before marriage is absolutely fine, as long as it's with somebody you love. I don't think I could have sex with somebody who I didn't love deeply, because sex for me is a sacred act, and something to be shared with my loved one. Is so personal and intimate, and to share this with somebody you don't trust, or know properly is very brave, amongst other things. I am not a virgin. I lost my virginity about 11 months ago, to the man that is still my boyfriend. I loved him when we made love for the first time, and to me, marriage is merely the legally binding document that signifies to the world that we are together. For me, the loving, sexual union of ur bodies, souls, and minds during the act of love-making is the true marriage, witnessed by both of us, and the Gods. I see my body as a temple, yes, but surely a temple is there for a reason: Not just to be looked at, but to be shared with others. I see my boyfriend's body as a temple also, both of our bodies are gifts from the Gods, but I think that condemning sex before marriage misses the point of what true marriage is.
Some people say that you know when its true love, cuz that does entail being able to wait until your wedding night... I'm not so sure.
What do you guys think?
Kiama