What about :
1. What is the person doing that hurts the situation? (as in what are they doing to make other's think it is ok to disrespect them).
2. What would help the person change it? (someone or something that could help the person's situation).
3. What is the best course of action? (What can the person do to help stop, and prevent further disrespect).
This is similar to what AnemoneRosie said, but just set in a "hurt, help, action" sort of frame which could get some insight on things. These could be one card for each number, or you could pull 3 cards if you would like a little more information to deal with. Even if you pull one card at first, if that doesn't help then you can pull two clarifying cards for each one (giving you three in total).