I've had two very difficult questions asked of me to do readings on lately. One, a very good friend of mine whose husband had a massive heart attack a couple weeks ago, wanted me to ask the cards if he would live another five years. <shudder> If she weren't my closest friend of almost 30 years, I would not have done the reading. I sat with her before I spread the cards and I explained all about, first of all, 'Yes/No" questions and how you may as well flip a coin as consult the cards in many cases. I talked about free will and how the outcome is never set in stone, there are too many variables. Disclaimer after disclaimer came out and I said, "DO YOU UNDERSTAND?" Yes. So we did two Y/N spreads and they both came out almost identical: The answer was that he could very likely die unless he changed his way of thinking about himself and his body and health. Also the Star showed up, a very good omen indeed. The readings confirmed each other and actually were very blunt, realistic and yet...hopeful.
The other day a male friend of mine wanted to know "if the baby is his." *sigh* What is a tarot reader to do? I told him simply that of course only a DNA test can determine that and the cards might be able to give him guidance about how to deal with this in the meantime (baby is not due until next April), but they are no substitute by any means for getting definitive answers. He said he understood and would receive whatever advice the cards give. I hung up the phone and did a quick Y/N spread. Ace of Wands. Magician. Ace of Pents. The two aces I saw easily represented the masculine and feminine energies of procreation...but the Magician is not your typical Magician in this deck (the Hudes). He is more of a scientist, a researcher. He is sitting at a table with notes and maps and globes and he's measuring a sphere with calipers. My initial response to the reading was: Well, it's highly likely that the baby is his, but we need scientific proof. It was one of those readings "that make you go 'DUH!'"
Ok, we already KNOW this! (Of course...I considered the other meanings of the Magician and it's possible the woman may be pulling something on him, but honestly...I didn't get that intuitive vibe.) Anyway, I can tell my friend what the cards said, but obviously they didn't give much insight. That's what you get with those kinds of questions, though. Obvious answers. I will try to work up a much better spread for him that might help him deal with the upcoming months of not knowing and waiting, how he might prepare for either/or.
These were good friends. If someone less than a very close friend had asked either of these questions of me, I would have refused to do the reading. I have already established trust and rapport with these two people. I am not one to have hard and fast rules when it comes to human beings and relationships and tarot reader/client is a human relationship. I might do one type of reading for one person and not another based on my own gut feelings about it. If I rely on my intuition for the reading itself, I can rely on it to tell me which questions/querants to read and which ones not to read.
~Mercy