Readings and reality

[Xrysalida]

Where the Tarot is concerned, what I'd advise you to do is simple: get a reading from someone else if you feel the need to, and then stop. Doing multiple readings on the same subject isn't going to accomplish anything. It's not going to change the situation if your fears are real. Asking someone else to do that final reading can be helpful since they're likely to be less biased. I think that the 3 of Swords, for example, does sound pretty bad in this context but there could be another interpretation. Any future readings you may get would probably benefit from an "advice" section as well, so you can get some ideas on what you can do to solve the problem (if there's a problem).

From a non-Tarot perspective, this is absolutely something you should talk to your partner about. It sounds like you're having issues trusting him. Maybe you have a reason to, maybe you don't, but there isn't much the cards can do compared to being honest with your partner about your fears. It also sounds like some things (his watching porn, the plans to experiment with one of your friends) are worrying you, so that's something you should also be honest about to make sure you're both on the same page. If he really is watching porn and that makes you uncomfortable, your Tarot deck can't solve the issue, but you can by telling him how you feel (if he respects your wishes) or by finding a relationship with someone more compatible with you on that level.

Hi chimera!
Well i do get readings from someoneinthe forum whim I trust, and she doesn't see anything weird, and I also took a reading from someone here and she spoke about a deception period, she got the moon there,it was the first time i tried her.
I also thougt 3 of swords as clearing the air with words, to be honest i fear more the. 7 of swords!

He does know all about this! All mu paranoias, fear, personal work, je knows, he even knows that I ask the tarot and I get these combinations!
No I dont mind porn, i like porn also ")
With the subject friends, i was the one who suggested this friend because I feel comfortable with her and I can speak directly with her also.
We are taking it slowly.

 

[Xrysalida]

You had mentioned that your relationship started as "open". I think some of your readings may reveal residual actions or feelings but nothing serious. I don't see 3 of coins and queen of swords as cheating unless he is trying to work something out with a queen of swords woman but I'm not convinced.

If you don't really suspect him to be cheating maybe you shouldn't perform those kinds of readings.

It could be, like showing a potential that comes from the thoughts and feelings of someone, yes for the queen and 3 i also thought it could be telling me to work on my thoughts.

Oh man this is the best to do!

 

[Xrysalida]

In the end, Tarot is just another source of information out of the many we depend on. It doesn't make or break anything, whatever any reading says. When a weatherman says it's going to rain, you don't hide under the bed, you just go out with an umbrella. The weatherman can only tell you if it'll rain, not if you're going to get wet. Before going off on tangents that your boyfriend might be lying, I suggest you take the readings as a form of advice, deal with the trust issues you have and sort out the problems you have together.

Whether a reading is true or not, you often can't help doing whatever you have to, regardless. Unless you want to break up with your boyfriend on the strength of a reading alone, take the readings as cautions, keep your eyes open and deal with the issues.

Yes this is what i try to do, cause at the end i m loosing it! I m just wondering about tarot....
I like this about advise, it gives me more direction.

 

[Xrysalida]

All the responces here have been very good advice. Just be aware that your own fears and paranoia may drive this person away, who wants to come come to that every night. Stop the reading and enjoy your partner, make your happiness. As said earlier, are you going to ruin a relationship over these readings with no proof to begin with?

This post is exactly why I do not read for myself, my emtions get in the way and take over all rational thought and wisdom.

Best of luck to you, I wish you peace and happiness.

Hi Pamuya!
Oh yes I get piss off when I think that The only reason to suspect is tarot, and yes i think that espcially for love we shouldn't read for ourselves, i would also like to undestand that whatever happens it will happen and I need to relax and enjoy!

Thank you all very much for your advises! They are very relieving!

 

[pluto'sapprentice258]

I'd like to weigh in, because I'm concerned about another relationship - your relationship with your cards! It would be awful if the confusion of these readings deterred you from consulting your cards in the future. I've seen this happen to good readers who asked too many probing questions of themselves. They got confused, upset, acted on misinterpreted readings and ultimately lost faith in their Tarot reading abilities.

You've had great advice here (seek another reader, communicate with your partner, avoid reading on this topic) so in addition to avoiding reading about this topic, I would advise you to just read about mundane issues for a while. Avoid going too deep. I think you'll feel better (about Tarot, at least!) if you're seeing clear messages in the cards again, readings which don't confuse you because they don't have emotional expectations attached to the outcomes.

 

[BrownBear]

One of the first things I learned when I started reading is that if I am too close to an issue, it is usually not a good topic to do a reading about. Perhaps you can work more with your own feelings outside of the cards? Think about why you are afraid of unfaithfulness. If ultimately you decide that is wrong for you personally, it is an issue that is beyond the cards. Not everyone is suited to an open relationship. There is nothing wrong with you if you decide it is not right for you and the cards can't help you change something intrinsic about your personality.

Or, as others have suggested, don't do readings that are related to such deep issues for a while. I do readings about events in the news or in advice columns. It's fun and light and in general makes me love my cards.

 

[Xrysalida]

I'd like to weigh in, because I'm concerned about another relationship - your relationship with your cards! It would be awful if the confusion of these readings deterred you from consulting your cards in the future. I've seen this happen to good readers who asked too many probing questions of themselves. They got confused, upset, acted on misinterpreted readings and ultimately lost faith in their Tarot reading abilities.

You've had great advice here (seek another reader, communicate with your partner, avoid reading on this topic) so in addition to avoiding reading about this topic, I would advise you to just read about mundane issues for a while. Avoid going too deep. I think you'll feel better (about Tarot, at least!) if you're seeing clear messages in the cards again, readings which don't confuse you because they don't have emotional expectations attached to the outcomes.

yes what you say here is easy to happen I can see it!

I know I have to hold back, it is like an addiction the truth especially when it comes ot these subjects

 

[Xrysalida]

One of the first things I learned when I started reading is that if I am too close to an issue, it is usually not a good topic to do a reading about. Perhaps you can work more with your own feelings outside of the cards? Think about why you are afraid of unfaithfulness. If ultimately you decide that is wrong for you personally, it is an issue that is beyond the cards. Not everyone is suited to an open relationship. There is nothing wrong with you if you decide it is not right for you and the cards can't help you change something intrinsic about your personality.

Or, as others have suggested, don't do readings that are related to such deep issues for a while. I do readings about events in the news or in advice columns. It's fun and light and in general makes me love my cards.

I know this is kind of a test for myself, I don't know either if I am made for an open relationship, I do work on this thouh, also yes hlding back from the readings on this I think is essential.

 

[OaksWhispering]

I think it would be better if you use the cards to help you figure out how best to work on your own trust issues and fears. And as always, listen to your gut because you will know deep down what your fears are really about. Just have to be honest with yourself, especially in doing your own readings.

 

[Xrysalida]

Actually is there anyone who knows a spread that analyses a psychological issue or situation?