Tanga
This is towards the senior members of tarot reading community:
AWWWW - do I have to be "Senior" to reply?
1. When you meet a person with negative energy/aura. What is your belief in what has cause this? I mean do you beleive in evil spirits/demons?
I believe that we create what we believe in. If I sense a "negative vibe" off someone - what I'm usually sensing, is that in some way they may be a person who will be a challenge to work with and may perhaps cause trouble later (e.g. by gossiping, or coming to see me simply to "prove I'm wrong" - or other such agendas or personal clashing traits that people may have). I'll only know if they have a spirit/demon - if they say they do. And then - well - that is entirely their issue. It has nothing to do with me and is not my jurisdiction as it were.
I trust that - providing I stay in integrity - the Universe only ever sends me people that I have the tools to deal with - even if it does mean that they are a huge palava and I have to put my foot down and say "very sorry but you need to go and see someone else now". For me - and for them - there's a learning experience in that.
2. Would you read for this or about this person if you are asked? Or would you tell them to leave.
If they are the former I describe - I may decide I don't need the hassle that my instincts are warning me about. That's my choice in the moment. If the latter - yes I would. Everyone needs help sometime. Even demons and spirits.
3. Have you ever read for someone and the reading was telling you there is someone extremly negative/within vicinity of this person. Do you read into details of this someone or you just advice to distance them from this individual?
Yes I have. And I would do my best to give a reading with options as well as alerting the sitter to the potential unpleasantness. I don't think that singular advice that they distance themselves would be helpful/constructive.
4. If you do believe in daemons, would you pull cards into the details of this being or just leave it alone?
Only if the sitter asks - I might draw for an overall feel. And I wouldn't deliberately pick a "dark" looking deck. I'd just use my intuition for which of my "reading" decks would be most appropriate. But any further than that would be referal onto someone who deals with that.
Advising on spiritual cleansing or curses... hmm. I've not bumped into that yet.
Possibly, I might see if I could help construct a simple ritual format for "keeping them safe", that they could do themselves, according to their traditions - and then refer them on - to a "spirit release" or other such person.
...Cleansing. I really need to start looking at that as I do pick up sandness to a point where it drags my personal experiences up and then I have to be sad or mole over the past hurt. Don't know why this happens but I guess its the bond that get formed over reading.
You have not figured out your boundaries yet. You need to discover the way to that "switch" which says "you end there, and I begin here - and the twain never have to meet - unless I say so" - just like a nerve synapse - the two ends of a nerve which have a gap that chemicals/gas travel across to pass a message on - but the two never actually touch.
When I first began my journey as a therapist - I had huge trouble with this issue as you describe. And I went to many workshops covering all-sorts-of-ways to
"cleanse/protect" etc.
Then 2 things happened: 1) Whilst discussing "protection" on a kinesiology course - one of the students who was an "old hand" said: "Why would I need to do that? if I do that - I begin to screen myself off from the intuitions/sensitivities that I need in order to do my job effectively". It had never occurred to her that she could "pick up" her clients "negative vibes" and therefore - she never had. Mind over matter.
2) I studied Zero Balancing - a modality which specifically looks at different types of energetic relationships in the healing field (would extend to doing readings - or any other things too really) - streaming, channelling, blending etc. Zero Balancing is intimately energetic, yet clear and separate - as you keep that synapse-like translation of relationship that I've described above.
I never had a problem after this. I suddenly just found that "switch".
Only when I'm really tired, and then I know my guard is down. In these cases - I will do a variation of ritual things to "protect" myself - as these practices get my mind/beliefs back into the right kind of "boundary" thinking. An example is my version of The Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram, or the simple invocation and visualisation of a protective Goddess/or my spirit guides, to watch over me.
What questions do you ask of tarot when the person is gone but the energy remains?
and if you ever read in these cases, what advice was given?
I don't. If the room/space feels "heavy" after they've left, I don't hang about further in it peering over more cards - I'll get up and actively do a ritual "dispersing" of energy.
E.g. - clapping hands in all the corners whilst visualising the energy field clearing and dissipating. Shaking off the sheets that cover the table/couch - putting the room in order is a great cleansing ritual. Ringing a bell, Tibetan bowl, or tuning fork. Singing, or invoking a Deity or other Being to cleanse the space. Calling my guides to come and clean up the room please - whilst I go and have a cup of tea... The list is endless. (I have ofcourse read/been taught/studied a variety of ideas - hence I can also just make a new ritual up on the spot for the purpose).
From your tradition - do you have certain formats that are considered effective for "cleansing/banishing" demons - or at least rendering them ineffective or sort of like "you and I have no business here - keep your distance" - sort of thing?